What does non-toxic/ healthy relationships feel or look like?
I never been in healthy relationships, mostly been around toxic people ( family, friends and dating/relationships) my whole life till now.
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SammyJo · 51-55, F
Any relationship should ebb and flow. That is, nobody wholly takes the lead. It's shared. Thoughts and feelings are taken into consideration and reacted to respectfully.
Me and my other 'arf do try to do nice things for each other per day, whether it's opening a door for the other, or buying flowers, or just leaving a nice note or comment. It doesn't mean that you have disagreements but what it does mean are those disagreements are discussed verbally, in a calm manner, with nothing thrown or broken.
Above all, it's about feeling safe..
SJD x
Me and my other 'arf do try to do nice things for each other per day, whether it's opening a door for the other, or buying flowers, or just leaving a nice note or comment. It doesn't mean that you have disagreements but what it does mean are those disagreements are discussed verbally, in a calm manner, with nothing thrown or broken.
Above all, it's about feeling safe..
SJD x
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SarahTheHooker · 26-30, F
@SammyJo Me and Adrian do that too, Sammy Jo; Check in and just chat. That way there's no burning issues as such.
Sarah 💋
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PicturesOfABetterTomorrow · 41-45, M
A couple things. Being wanted is amazing but being needed is a problem. Co-dependence can get toxic or abusive real quick.
Look out for people who see relationships as transactional. Compromise is one thing but someone who sees it like "I did this, so you owe me X" can be a huge red flag.
A partner should build you up, not tear you down. But they should also call you out on your bullshit and challenge you to be a better person and not enable your negative traits. And you should be able to do the same for them.
Beware anyone who isolates you socially. Your entire existence should not revolve around one person or a single relationship.
Look out for people who see relationships as transactional. Compromise is one thing but someone who sees it like "I did this, so you owe me X" can be a huge red flag.
A partner should build you up, not tear you down. But they should also call you out on your bullshit and challenge you to be a better person and not enable your negative traits. And you should be able to do the same for them.
Beware anyone who isolates you socially. Your entire existence should not revolve around one person or a single relationship.
PicturesOfABetterTomorrow · 41-45, M
@trollslayer I agree. That was one of the points I was making.
sahi81 · 22-25, F
@trollslayer I think neediness can come from being lonely.
SarahTheHooker · 26-30, F
It's not easy to spot the toxic people sometimes. Some of them are manipulative and you don't realise.
In terms of family? Non-toxic is about respect, mutual love and finding common ground, sometimes, between the age gaps. It's about missing those people when you are away from them.
Friends? They have your back. They support you. Give you a lift when you need it. Give you a hug. There with a cup of tea if you want to chat. Praise you on a job well done.
Boyfriends/girlfriends? Make you feel safe, secure and feel like home with them.
Sarah 💋
In terms of family? Non-toxic is about respect, mutual love and finding common ground, sometimes, between the age gaps. It's about missing those people when you are away from them.
Friends? They have your back. They support you. Give you a lift when you need it. Give you a hug. There with a cup of tea if you want to chat. Praise you on a job well done.
Boyfriends/girlfriends? Make you feel safe, secure and feel like home with them.
Sarah 💋
Nick1 · 61-69, M
@sahi81 It is up to us to break those restrictions imposed on us in the name of culture and open up and accept all the goodness from others.
Every culture has their good and bad things.
You have to work and practice to stay positive. Best way to start is, enjoying and appreciating small things in our life, our surroundings.
Every culture has their good and bad things.
You have to work and practice to stay positive. Best way to start is, enjoying and appreciating small things in our life, our surroundings.
sahi81 · 22-25, F
@Nick1 i am open-minded. The things i want, i can't get in my culture, most ppl r very conservative here, so i want to move to other place. I am not saying everything about my culture is bad, but somethings r. The things i want, i can find in other cultures easily than here.
Even many positive ppl follow same culture lol.
Even many positive ppl follow same culture lol.
PoetryNEmotion · F
Teirdalin · 31-35
At least 'till now' implies you're no longer in a toxic relationship?
sahi81 · 22-25, F
@Teirdalin kinda same, i too wish but it's scary that what if i get only a toxic person again. I got toxic men in my life in rows , as friends or dating. I think i was doing same mistakes and some mistakes i didn't even realise myself unless i reserached or others told me. So this last time i wanna take time and try different methods and see if results r different
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
nazgul · 26-30, F
It can be difficult if you're used to chaos. You might be expecting to have problems or even create problems that aren't there/don't have any logical basis because you're waiting for the other shoe to drop.
DoubleRings · 51-55, F
I’m not sure it exists tbh. Everything and everyone is toxic in some way
OriginalDumbMan · 36-40
Toxic relationships are not relationships.
RedBaron · M
What DO they look like…
TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 46-50, MVIP
a disney movie...
UnderLockDown · M
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