What does non-toxic/ healthy relationships feel or look like?
I never been in healthy relationships, mostly been around toxic people ( family, friends and dating/relationships) my whole life till now.
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PicturesOfABetterTomorrow · 41-45, M
A couple things. Being wanted is amazing but being needed is a problem. Co-dependence can get toxic or abusive real quick.
Look out for people who see relationships as transactional. Compromise is one thing but someone who sees it like "I did this, so you owe me X" can be a huge red flag.
A partner should build you up, not tear you down. But they should also call you out on your bullshit and challenge you to be a better person and not enable your negative traits. And you should be able to do the same for them.
Beware anyone who isolates you socially. Your entire existence should not revolve around one person or a single relationship.
Look out for people who see relationships as transactional. Compromise is one thing but someone who sees it like "I did this, so you owe me X" can be a huge red flag.
A partner should build you up, not tear you down. But they should also call you out on your bullshit and challenge you to be a better person and not enable your negative traits. And you should be able to do the same for them.
Beware anyone who isolates you socially. Your entire existence should not revolve around one person or a single relationship.
sahi81 · 22-25, F
@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow True.
I came from over-critical family, so i think it's not good to be harsh or critical when someone makes mistakes or does something wrong. It's important to point out bullshit of others but also it's important to point out in respectful manner instead of criticizing, shaming, judging or lashing out.
I came from over-critical family, so i think it's not good to be harsh or critical when someone makes mistakes or does something wrong. It's important to point out bullshit of others but also it's important to point out in respectful manner instead of criticizing, shaming, judging or lashing out.
trollslayer · 46-50, M
@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow exactly. If you feel you “need” someone, or if someone says they “need you” it’s toxic. I suggest working on being your own person who can attend to your own needs, and look for other self-sufficient people.
When you hear about people “completing” one another, that’s a red flag because it implies the person was incomplete coming in.
When you hear about people “completing” one another, that’s a red flag because it implies the person was incomplete coming in.
PicturesOfABetterTomorrow · 41-45, M
@trollslayer I agree. That was one of the points I was making.
sahi81 · 22-25, F
@trollslayer I think neediness can come from being lonely.