When do you know for sure that a woman is hitting on you and is eyeing to take you home or whatever? Like the actual trait(s) or move(s) or act(s) that make you wanna believe that..
When she straddles my chest with her arms behind my neck, and starts dry humping and moaning. Dead give away. Anything less and I'll either not notice or will be unsure.
First of all, i wouldn't go home with her the first time if I had any inclination it was for sex. But to answer your question,... I never have been any good at telling when a woman is hitting on me. I have given up trying to figure that out long ago. I don't know why they just can't be obvious about it. I'm pretty much over trying to decipher women's multiple confusing signals. If they just can't come out and convey straight away, I'm not interested. Games are for children.
@Elisbch Maybe its not about games, maybe its about class and dignity and that saying "ur hot, wanna get it awn", or " you look nice , wanna date" is pretty, well.....crass🤷♀️
Some women have jist as much trouble finding a way to talk to men first .....esp when socially we've been guided not to .
Nothing personal.. just my code developed from experience. I find some/many women want it both ways. I hear them say they want to be equal and some better than men. That's fine if they want to say that. However, if that's where they want to be, then they should learn how to speak directly too then. They want to be equal, then be mollycoddled. For me, it doesn't work that way. Been there done that! I no longer play "20 Questions" or "Guess my mood" or any others. Women can speak up and communicate directly as well as any man. I've heard them.
@Elisbch ok. But if you ront want to talk to them first, and you leave it all up to them , and believe that women always have this long list of requirements.....you are cutting us all down either way without a chance.
Is that fair ?
You may say women want all thses things, and that men do too, as by your example that becuase youre not good at receiving signals , it has to be them to talk to you , in a certain way,but.....isnt that you having certain rules they need to abide by - right off the bat ?
if you sit on a log, do nothing, expect the worst...and have rules they need to adhere to right from the start .......then i hope you dont ever complain that you don't get what you dont try for, and expect them to do all the work for .
From my perspective, your 'code' has become a reversal of the old code. You want women to do all the work - and expecting them to adhere to your expectations🤷♀️ Congrats - youve just become a princess😂
Isnt this the very thing we are trying to get away from ?
I think there should be give and take , a little balance . Not these weird extremes of self entitlement.
Love is wonderful ......but ... Love is hard Love needs courage Love needs work Love isnt this magical thing that just happens by chance and all miraculously works out like a fairy tale .
It isnt going to drop into yout lap by wishing for it.
I feel you have given us all up, because of the shitty ones .
Unless it is an obvious bold move like giving me her phone number and acting some type of way when she does. Like smiles and winks or touching my hand etc, or she comes and sits on my lap well she tells me something and giggles play for me.... I never assume anything. And I let it come to me I no longer Chase
@Elisbch the difference my brother between us big dogs and puppies. Puppies Chase cars or cats, big dogs lay on the porch and let the food or friends come to them
I was pretty sure I was getting hit on by a woman this past weekend at a live music concert/beer tent. I was just enjoying the show off to the side, leaning over the fence when she came up to me and asked how I was doing. As she talked to me she did so real close (the music was loud) and there was a lot of arm and hand touching. Maybe she was just being friendly, but what convinced me was when she asked if I wanted to go for a walk. I politely declined and said I was just gonna listen to the music. She said she was going to get another drink and for me not to go anywhere. 😳
Wow, I am mildly shocked by the responses to this simple question. We are still a primitive species when it comes to sexual encounters. Men often look only for beauty and or big boobs, big boobs will feed the offspring. Women look for security and outward strength in a man, a provider. The bigger, stronger, funnier, he may be will win her heart
It's usually a culmination of things that help point me in that direction: proximity when talking in person, amount of eye contact, physicl touch in conversation are some obvious signs. Mirroring one's body language and word usage, change in vocal tone, or eyeing you from afar constantly are some less obvious signs.
If you’re looking for a serious response, what see most often is eye contact, but the sure tell is if she touches my arm. It’s often a light touch on the forearm or wrist.
@longhairedcougar one time i was pointing at a girl i was talking about to a friend. She looked as i was pointing and smiled. So i ended up waving for her to come over with one finger and picked her up that way.
@longhairedcougar what do u mean. I just dont know when a ladies is doing it. It has to be really blatantly done. The suddel innuendos dont work most of the time
