When do you know for sure that a woman is hitting on you and is eyeing to take you home or whatever? Like the actual trait(s) or move(s) or act(s) that make you wanna believe that..
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First of all, i wouldn't go home with her the first time if I had any inclination it was for sex. But to answer your question,... I never have been any good at telling when a woman is hitting on me. I have given up trying to figure that out long ago. I don't know why they just can't be obvious about it. I'm pretty much over trying to decipher women's multiple confusing signals. If they just can't come out and convey straight away, I'm not interested. Games are for children.
@Elisbch Maybe its not about games, maybe its about class and dignity and that saying "ur hot, wanna get it awn", or " you look nice , wanna date" is pretty, well.....crass🤷♀️
Some women have jist as much trouble finding a way to talk to men first .....esp when socially we've been guided not to .
Nothing personal.. just my code developed from experience. I find some/many women want it both ways. I hear them say they want to be equal and some better than men. That's fine if they want to say that. However, if that's where they want to be, then they should learn how to speak directly too then. They want to be equal, then be mollycoddled. For me, it doesn't work that way. Been there done that! I no longer play "20 Questions" or "Guess my mood" or any others. Women can speak up and communicate directly as well as any man. I've heard them.
@Elisbch ok. But if you ront want to talk to them first, and you leave it all up to them , and believe that women always have this long list of requirements.....you are cutting us all down either way without a chance.
Is that fair ?
You may say women want all thses things, and that men do too, as by your example that becuase youre not good at receiving signals , it has to be them to talk to you , in a certain way,but.....isnt that you having certain rules they need to abide by - right off the bat ?
if you sit on a log, do nothing, expect the worst...and have rules they need to adhere to right from the start .......then i hope you dont ever complain that you don't get what you dont try for, and expect them to do all the work for .
From my perspective, your 'code' has become a reversal of the old code. You want women to do all the work - and expecting them to adhere to your expectations🤷♀️ Congrats - youve just become a princess😂
Isnt this the very thing we are trying to get away from ?
I think there should be give and take , a little balance . Not these weird extremes of self entitlement.
Love is wonderful ......but ... Love is hard Love needs courage Love needs work Love isnt this magical thing that just happens by chance and all miraculously works out like a fairy tale .
It isnt going to drop into yout lap by wishing for it.
I feel you have given us all up, because of the shitty ones .
