In a relationship if he/she cheats, if you find out how many chances would you give that person, if you truly love them?

Its generally not good to get back with a cheater in most cases if your goal is a drama free cheating free long lasting relationship.
It becomes a pattern.
They are too comfortable with disrespecting you.
Bitterness will grow on your side and his side too.
The foundation of the trust in the relationship is broken.
Bad idea. I'd say to move on doubly so if he has done it more than once.

I’m done with giving second chances for cheating tbh.

I went through that with my oldest daughter’s father. I forgave him the first time. Eventually I found out he’d cheated with so many women. It was disgusting. I learned my lesson. I would never forgive anyone for doing that to me

Done. I wouldn’t even be hurt or mad, I’d just be done. Kids are grown, house is paid for so I’d be done.

I think you need to get to the root of why they cheat. Is something broken in your relationship or is he/she just not a committed person?

That’s definitely a personal choice to make. I think it’s based on the individual not necessarily how much they love the person. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you’re expected to give them another chance regardless of how strong the love is. Some people are not able to get over a betrayal like that, and some are able to work through it and be okay with it. Although, if you’re willing to give them another chance just know you’re able to move at your own pace with working towards trusting them again, they messed up here not you. But, you also have to be willing to work towards trusting them again as well. Holding a grudge over it isn’t a way of working towards it. For me personally, I wouldn’t give them a second chance. Cheating in any form wouldn’t be something I’d be okay with the betrayal would be too strong for me and I don’t see myself being able to work towards a trusting relationship again.

If it happens, they failed you.There can't be enough love there for them to have sacrificed your relationship. I would follow this rule:

There are several kinds of cheating, but they all usually stem from feeling unsatisfied (whether that's communicated or not in your relationship). That could be emotionally, physically, etc. This leads to finding this from someone else if they choose to go that route instead of communicating with their partner, so cheating can take many forms. If it's an emotional bond or planning to meet up, I would consider that cheating.
Cut 'em off - be your own best friend, make friends, foster healthy and good non-romantic relationships, and remind yourself that you deserve way more. Never settle, and don't look for love - it will find you by chance when you least expect it. And, if you're doing what you love, you could meet someone who loves the thing, too.

Even if I tried to move forward with that the relationship would eventually collapse because the foundation of trust isn't there anymore.

None . They didn’t have to cheat . They made the choice and the foundation is broken beyond repair . That’s how I would see it and then I’d move on with no regrets 🌹

In the past, I couldn't deal with it, so I never stayed, I broke up with him.
I think I'd do the same if it happened now.

Basically, it’s a question of trust. If I don’t see any way that I’d ever trust them again, we’re done. There won’t be another chance.

{@mrscurious] give them the benefit of the doubt once and once only . far as the phone conversation it depends the content of it and whether there is an reasonable expanation for what was said

If he or she is hiding those conversations it is cheating imo

I'm not ok with any time. Pretty much, "See ya!"

Absolutely no chances.

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Depends what they're talking about on the phone for me to consider it cheating but either way I'd put that to a stop if it was excessive.

Physical cheating, 1 strike you're out.

I love him, he loves me, we have 3 kids. I'll give it a chance.

It depends.

I seen one where the cheating occurred by threat.

Old flame harassed my friend & she was afraid to say anything.

Until I stepped in.



Hehe heh. That lil sob got his comeuppance.

No chance... He would not get a chance to see me again to try yo explain....

That's if I know 100% that he has cheated...

No second chance.

Things get complicated if we are married because divorce court is not kind to men, but if we are just dating or in a relationship then shiiiit...

I don't care how much I love her we are done.

We can still have sex if she wants but the relationship is over.

if I catch him cheating I'll show him how it's done with out ever being caught

Once a cheater always a cheater. They never forget, but they can't go back in time. Seriously, why build up trust just to throw it away like garbage?

I think everyone gets to fuck up once.