My boyfriends doesn't have any hobbies except smoking weed Before (like when we met 4 years...

BlueVeins · 22-25

Losing interest in activities he used to enjoy, staying home, and abusing substances sounds like possible symptoms of some kind of deep unhappiness, but it could also be regular old psychological addiction. Short of leaving (which is a perfectly good option), you might want to just ask him how he's been feeling when he's not high and see if there's some underlying problem. But you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped and if all he wants to do is lie around and smoke, you can't let him drag you down with him.

MarmeeMarch · M

LOL - get ready for standing in welfare lines and filling out applications for government assistance if you decide that you want to grow old with this one. LOL LOL LOL

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

Why do you think he's ended up doing that?. Did you notice anything around the time or after he started smoking weed a lot?. I know when I used to do stuff like that it was because I was unhappy. That being said some people can get psychologically addicted.

SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M

What's the part or parts that bother you?

His lack of motivation?
His lack of friends that don't smoke weed?
How he treats you when he is high?

Focus on what it is that bothers you and then speak to him about it, at a good time, when he is sober. See what, if anything, he is willing to change to make you happier.

4meAndyou · F

The ex was like that...could not deal with reality unless he was high. This is a huge, huge red flag. A lot of people with mental health issues of one sort or another mask their symptoms by getting high. It's like they are self medicating so they won't have to feel anything bad, and in that process they are destroying their own lives.

Budwick · 70-79, M

Phoebe - I think if I were you, I would be spending this down time preparing for your 'coming out' party. When, in the near future we can head back out and you can be all set and ready to find a new love interest. Just think about it - you can already be over 'the loss' of loser boy, all well adjusted to welcome Mr. Right.

All the best.

Dirtymikeandtheboys · M

I guess there are worse things but just tell him you want to see some ambition. I am seeing a 26 year old and I think sometimes our minds are in different places. The key is communicating, just don’t leave it at “ok” apparently 😂

luctoretemergo · 61-69, M

Wow - sounds like a real winner!...and they say weed has no ill-effects...apparently it kills ambition!...No offense but virus or not, a 30 year old guy smoking weed, doing nothing, etc...I think you know what you have to do!....

SW-User

That’s a really distressing situation to be in, I’m sorry that things are working out like this.

eMortal · M

It's gonna be hard to bring him back that dark hole.
He's afraid to grow up.
Don't support a drug addict.

greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

His problems are serious. He could try counseling but it doesn't seem as if he is motivated to change. He is not taking care of himself; if you stick around, that will become your task. I'd recommend dropping him and moving on. He doesn't have a life and doesn't want one. If you do, you're going to have to move on.

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Dump his ass and get out before is it too late for you.

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