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My bf said he prefers big boobs, blue eyes and wavy hair. I have none of these, is it not ok to be hurt?

He says I shouldn't be hurt but I am so hurt by this...
I’d dump his fucking dumb ass in a minute. Anybody that doesn’t value me, isn’t worthy of being with me. Fuck him.
@Carissimi Same. And I personally don’t care if that makes me too sensitive. He should know me better than that, at that point.
Carissimi · 70-79, F
I don’t care either. I am who I am. @DarkHeaven
@Carissimi Same.
LucyFuhr · 56-60, F
...and did you tell [b][i]him[/i][/b] you prefer your men a little less ignorant and/or awkward?

It's a lowkey put down, especially if knows you to be sensitive, self-conscious or insecure.

You not only have every right to be hurt, you should be pissed that he's telling you how to feel about it too.
basicgirl12 · 22-25, F
@Carissimi thank you that's a lovely comment
It's a curse only because most people - for no fault of their own - aren't as kind
Carissimi · 70-79, F
That’s the truth. @basicgirl12
LucyFuhr · 56-60, F
@basicgirl12 Your sensitivity and kindness are gifts a significant other should not only appreciate, but return.

If not, you might want to re-evaluate the person you're being good to.
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
My fiance likes big thighs and booties. Which I don't have.

And I like muscles tattoos and beards...which my fiance does not have.

We can fall in love with people who are not our physical type.
basicgirl12 · 22-25, F
@DearAmbellina2113 except then we'll keep looking at other people sexually. Even sometimes in front of our partners
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
@basicgirl12 looking isn't touching. I'm okay with looking personally.
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
I'm sorry he's said something like that to you, that's just uncalled for and you shouldn't have to put up with that. It can be demeaning and a bit insensitive to you and your feelings.

I mean everyone might have an ideal preference. But if you're with someone that doesn't fit that ideal, then why bring it up. From the sounds of it, he just said that outright to you? Either way, not the best way to handle it in my opinion.
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
@Carissimi @basicgirl12

I can't answer for other men, but being who I am, I don't have anything I am drawn to more than another. Nothing like hair color, build, height or anything like that. For me, it's the person, the personality, the connection I make. That being said, as I mentioned, so many might have certain things that attract them, but go with someone opposite because there is or was a draw or connection to something else about that person that has nothing to do with physical appearance. Still, saying something like he did just wasn't necessary.

Hell, I'd suggest just saying to him, if it ever comes up again..."Oh that's good, because I like (insert physical description that is not him) as well and a larger penis." and then smile. :D

Okay, maybe that last part might be a bit petty, but made me smile thinking of it.
Carissimi · 70-79, F
Thank you. You sound like a man with depth. @MrPerditus1
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
@Carissimi Well thank you kindly, just taught from a young age that's all. :) But it's greatly appreciated.
NigelDoes · 56-60, M
What a wanker to be that superficial and shallow.
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basicgirl12 · 22-25, F
@bijouxbroussard you are going around the comments defending me like an absolute sweetheart
Thank you
@basicgirl12 Sorry, I’ve just been there. 😔
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His mistake was telling you. What was his motive, I wonder ? People are stupid that way. Someone once told me I was not “typical” of his interests. I couldn’t get past it and let him go to find his “ideal”.
basicgirl12 · 22-25, F
@bijouxbroussard I asked him, and he told me he genuinely doesn't care even if on a regular basis I fantasized about fucking other men as long as I did nothing about it

I guess he is an exception.
@bijouxbroussard I’m leaning on manipulative based on some of the other things.
@basicgirl12 No. He’s prepping for something. This sounds like a threesome thing.
He sounds like a loser tbh.
@DarlingSelah Facts. ✌️
Carissimi · 70-79, F
I wouldn’t like it, if a boyfriend said that to me. It would put it in my head that I didn’t measure up to his preferences, and it would ruin our relationship, but that’s me.
@Carissimi Same. His bitch ass better get to finding that then.
Carissimi · 70-79, F
I’m a sensitive person, so I’m not sure if my reaction would be representative of most women, but it looks like there is at least three of us. @DarkHeaven
@Carissimi 🖤
McGeeisme · 61-69, M
That is awful. He is either a complete oaf or just a callous ass. Either way he was either not at all cognizant of your feelings or simply does not care about how you feel. Kick him to the curb!
basicgirl12 · 22-25, F
@McGeeisme thx so much, you have no clue how helpful it was to read this comment
McGeeisme · 61-69, M
@basicgirl12 I can understand how much pain simple words can cause.
Tomorrow · 56-60, F
Did you ask him or did he volunteer it out of the blue? If you asked, then he was honest and you got what you deserved. He he blurted it out without cause then he's probably an insensitive jackass. 🤷‍♀️
DiegoWolfe · 36-40
If he felt the need to bring it up tell him you'll gladly pay to have him get huge tits as you'll support his choice
basicgirl12 · 22-25, F
@DiegoWolfe 😂😂😂
SoLeRiMix · 31-35, M
I am sorry, you're deeply hurt!

It's quite understandable!

Somebody who's only influenced by outer beauty and does not consider the beauty within the other person that person does not know the meaning of true love!

Hope, your boyfriend is kidding!

I have done this before!

After marriage, I deliberately fought with my Wife a day before her birthday because I wanted to surprise her with the birthday party I had planned for her!

Our family knew about my plan and they helped me by maintaining silence!

She was really surprised when her Sister took her to the birthday party by convincing her for a girl's night out!

[b]May be, he has a surprise planned for you!
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Rest, you know your man better!

I wish you Good Luck!

🙂👍️
SoLeRiMix · 31-35, M
@DarlingSelah Yeah!

In a funny way!

Party explained everything!

🙂
@SoLeRiMix why did you need to pick a fight??
SoLeRiMix · 31-35, M
@DarlingSelah This is called [b]'shock and aww'[/b] not 'shock and awe'!

🙂
SW-User
so who’s the bigger clown: him for saying that to you or you for not wasting anymore time on him?
jackson55 · M
It not the size of your boobs, the color of your eyes or your hair that counts. It’s who they belong to that does.
basicgirl12 · 22-25, F
@jackson55 but... He can still have a preference?
Maybe I'm over reacting?
jackson55 · M
@basicgirl12 Sounds like he does. And no I don’t think so.
Leafkiss · 26-30, F
It's okay not to be hurt because he loves you the way you are and that is extremely rare.
@Leafkiss Except that he told her what he [b]usually[/b] likes. That means his “dream girl” is still out there.
at the very least, it was unfeeling of him.

tell him,, go find one then!
What a jackass
basicgirl12 · 22-25, F
@basicgirl12 because of what he said.
SW-User
He shouldn’t say it
BearDownChicago · 41-45, M
Really? Blue brown or green eyes works for me small breasts are s preference wavy hair? I can take or leave
Sadwithasmile · 22-25, M
Tell him things he doesn’t have that you prefer.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
It doesn't mean he was complaining, necessarily, but if you're hurt, you're hurt, end of story. It also means he has no game, imo.

I prefer brunettes with ample rear ends, and I married a blue eyed blonde with nothing to speak of on the rear side. We got divorced, but not because of looks.

I have to hear from my gf all the time about Hugh Jackman. All the time.
I mean, the dude is frickin WOLVERINE and cut AF, no way I can shine the guy's shoes.

As a guy who married someone not his type, if he really loves you, he won't miss those things.
basicgirl12 · 22-25, F
@uncalled4 yeah but I'm simply hurt because he told me. Would you have when you were still married said that to your wife?

 
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