My bf said he prefers big boobs, blue eyes and wavy hair. I have none of these, is it not ok to be hurt?

He says I shouldn't be hurt but I am so hurt by this...

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LucyFuhr · 56-60, F

...and did you tell him you prefer your men a little less ignorant and/or awkward?

It's a lowkey put down, especially if knows you to be sensitive, self-conscious or insecure.

You not only have every right to be hurt, you should be pissed that he's telling you how to feel about it too.

basicgirl12 · 22-25, F

@LucyFuhr I could never say anything of that sort to him

I'd never want to hurt him

And maybe it looks like the same degree of care isn't imparted from his side

Carissimi · F

@basicgirl12 Oh my dear, you are a very sensitive and kind soul. You remind me of myself back when. Even now, I can’t hurt those or speak too unkindly of those who hurt me. In one way, it’s an admirable character trait, but in another way, it’s a curse.

basicgirl12 · 22-25, F

@Carissimi thank you that's a lovely comment
It's a curse only because most people - for no fault of their own - aren't as kind

Carissimi · F

That’s the truth. @basicgirl12

LucyFuhr · 56-60, F

@basicgirl12 Your sensitivity and kindness are gifts a significant other should not only appreciate, but return.

If not, you might want to re-evaluate the person you're being good to.