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Is cheating ever okay? Is it forgivable?

Can it ever be forgiven? Even if it's within the context of say, a drunken night at a party?
abe182 · 46-50, M
You're still in control of making good decisions when drunk. That's never an excuse.
SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M
No. The valid response to that bullshit excuse is that if someone knows they make poor, impulse decisions while drinking then they should limit their alcohol intake.

Take responsibility for the situation. If not, then they are the type of person who values their impulsive decisions of the moment over their committed relationship.

I would never commit to someone who behaved in this manner.
TonyPajamas · 22-25
No and I wouldn’t forgive under any circumstances
AbbeyRhode · F
It's always wrong, and even if the other person is able to forgive, trust is shattered, and the relationship is over.
Northwest · M
Yes, it is forgivable. I know a few couples, that were able to get past cheating.

A drunken night at a party, does not change the basic facts.

If you're not asking for a friend, and it's you who cheated, and you really think it's a one time thing, not a pattern of yours, and you really want to be in a relationship with someone, then you take it to your grave.

People confess, for selfish reasons, to relieve their own guilt. There's a chance that the person they're confessing to, does not want to hear it.

If it's you who got cheated on, then good luck to you. You may be able to forgive, but it's always going to be in the back on your mind, even if you're not the jealous or possessive type, it's the betrayal.
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@Northwest I really agree with you on the part about the confession being selfish. I also agree that if you made the mistake then it is yours to carry not your partners. Like you said if you did it take it to your grave.
JBird · F
Even if you want to forgive that person, it's not easy because each time you are with that person after cheating, you will only imagine him/her with their lover and that image will stay with you forever. So please never cheat with your loved ones
indyjoe · 56-60, M
Of course it can be forgiven...it's earning/ rebuilding the trust that's the issue. Not easily done and could take long time (possibly never)
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
You may forgive the human being.
The relationship is over, even so, no matter the excuses.
No way back.
Montanaman · M
Mistakes happen. You're human.
Crazychick · 36-40, F
@CharlieZ Where I come from there's no situation where a "mistake" is intentional.
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@Crazychick Agree, no mistake is intentional.
And intentions are not enough to define.
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
@Montanaman A one time betrayal is one time in excess.
Forgivable as human beings? Yes.
Necessarily as partners? Not imposible, may be neither desirable.
Not for me.
SeductiveCactus · 26-30, F
xixgun · M
Nope. You made the choice to get so shitfaced you'd sleep with anyone. It's on you.
SW-User
Nope, context doesn't matter..
Cheating is never justifiable
GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M
It's never ok
Yes it's forgivable
Phillyphan78 · 41-45, F
Absolutely not
Mktonght · 61-69, M
LOL, now ladies lets have stronger opinions and not be so wishy washy in our answers, 😇

Depends on exactly what form the cheating took as to whether would forgive.
SW-User
Not if you're supposed to be in a committed relationship. If you slipped up, keep it to yourself. Don't tell anyone.
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Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
It's only acceptable if it's a married woman fooling around with me.
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Newfound · 41-45, M
Are you asking for a friend?
basicgirl12 · 22-25, F
@Newfound nope

 
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