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I constantly overthink in my relationship for no reason, I always think the worst even though I have it so good?

I have such a lovely happy relationship but my head and insecurities get in the way and I want to know if anyone has good ways of coping and managing anxiety without using medication?
Grateful4you · M Best Comment
This is fairly common for someone your age. Remember, YOU created this anxiety mindset, thus, you can undo it as well.

Note my user name, it has a reason. Many months ago I too was in a bad place, felt empty, useless, yes and anxious. Someone told me, "David, look around at all the things you have to be grateful for.

This really struck me, so now I do this VERY long list which I express verbally, every evening and night.

Example: I am grateful for my home, all it contains, the comfort and happiness it brings me, then I continue on with everything I can think of,
my health, my cat's, my friends, (I name every one I can think of, each time I think of something, i repeat "I am grateful"

Yoy can do this and include, "I am grateful I have no fears which cause anxiety" "I am grateful I know these fears/anxieties are a false belief.

I have noticed in recent months, ho differently I view the world. How beautiful the flowers, animals, the colors more vivid, my overall outlook on life is positive. I haven't had a panic attack or fear issue. I'm off of my meds.

Just a suggestion. This exercise in affirming the beauty surrounding me
is changing my life.

I also avoid "drama addicts" or negative people.

Hope you consider this. Good luck!
MarHar99 · 22-25, F
@Grateful4you I get so emotional man I started reading the first line and cried. Thankyou for being really open its nice to see other views and opinions and I will try to take this into account. I feel as I don't have friends in this new area that I'm living I have no one to vent to other than him and his family and I mean I have to have some privacy so thankyou for that, really!
@MarHar99 First off, thanks so much for BA that means a lot to me.

Given a new "Grateful" attitude you will start attracting people who are more aligned with the posistivity you are seeking.

I am going to add you if you need to talk sometime. Oh, and I forgot, everyday I make it a point to say something nice, or at least make a smile.

I have a guest here now for coffee, will be back in a while.

Wishing you my very best. Remember the old saying, "YOU can be the change you want to see in the world"

Again, thank you!

Lostpoet · M
How long have you been in the relationship? Sex will help if you and your partner have made it that far.
MarHar99 · 22-25, F
@Lostpoet Since July last year, we live together with his family and been best friend 2 years prior to moving in with each other. Intimacy is A okay x
bigryand · 31-35, M
Sometimes just talking about them with your partner can help. But that takes a lot of courage to do. I feel it's often the best way though.
bigryand · 31-35, M
@MarHar99 Maybe therapy is needed? Or just talking to someone else first?
MarHar99 · 22-25, F
Maybe you're right. I guess therapy is an option but I have been down that route since the age of 9 and never got well with all the different types and don't want to depend on others constantly to have reassurance :(
bigryand · 31-35, M
@MarHar99 Maybe ask for natural drugs to help. Look for something called GABA. I've heard it does wonders.
MrBrownstone · 46-50, M
Do you have low self confidence?
MrBrownstone · 46-50, M
@MarHar99 I agree 100%. Surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself.
MarHar99 · 22-25, F
I just don't know how to get out of my own head
MrBrownstone · 46-50, M
@MarHar99 Have to get your mind on something else. Like reading a book for example.
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
Age and experience ;)

Something I read recently, a quote from someone ... Of all the bad things I ever imagined happening to me, none of them ever did .... It's worth keeping in mind

 
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