I need real advice please!

I think if you read what you've just written and then ask yourself if it was a friend asking you for advance the answer is pretty darned obvious.
Walk away, move on.

I been there. Eventually your need to grow up will require you to make some (painful) cuts. But once you do, your life will really start.

Hi there Nicole. While people in your real life may never have been in this situation, there are a lot of people in this world, and a lot of people here, who have been in a relationship with a dead beat. This guy sounds like someone who is just bringing you down. Based on your question, it seems like you really do know the answer to what you need to do. That being said, the hardest part I think is for us to realize that we are worth more. We stay in bad relationships because our own self worth issues. So, I am telling you this. You and everyone like you, deserves a partner who is smart, educated and hardworking. People don't change, so waiting around for him to change is only going to result in you becoming more and more unhappy, and a lot of times results in staying in a bad situation because it is comfortable. It is time to think about you and your happiness!!

The major question is do you love him? Part 2 of that is do you love him enough for this to be your life?
Personally, I would regret spending my life with someone who wasn't motivated to find work and have his own hobbies.
You say you're unhappy and want him to change. Based on this I would say it's time to move on. (I think you know this and are just seeking validation.)
Find someone who makes you happy, that you don't want to change.

What does he even bring to the relationship?

I was in a similar situation yrs ago with my high school sweetheart, except I was the loser bf and not the responsible one. She eventually left me becuz she knew it would never work and she was right, we were in two totally different places and headed in opposite directions in life. Honestly her leaving me was a good thing for both of us, especially her. She moved on with her life, continuing her education and pursuing a career. I was of course devastated but it taught me a lesson; two people cannot coexist in a relationship if they r living basically separate lives. If u and ur bf r not seeing eye to eye on important issues like careers, long term goals, etc. then it may b time to hang it up. Let him know exactly how ur feeling and tell him u’ve been considering leaving him becuz he’s not the person u need him to b. His response to that will tell u a lot about what decision u need to make. Hope everything works out for u and good luck 😊

Please, you don’t need any advice. Stevie Wonder could see what to do here. 🙄

Women are ALWAYS waiting for some lazy assed manboy to GROW UP!!! I am 300 years old and so far...they are ALL still waiting!!! Get the hell away from him and find a MAN!

Are you dating my ex husband?!!! 😂

Will you are already looking for advice, part of growing up is not acting like your 16 when your 26.
Obviously you are getting tired of being a teenager when your in your 20’s
He’s 26 and can’t fill out a resume. Wake up you sound more like your his mother then a girlfriend. I think you need to move on and start your life. Other wise your going to be living with him making babies and living on welfare. Good luck

Kick him to the curb and get a real man

Let it go, my dear. He does not want to change his life and you cannot make him. You have your whole life ahead of you, don't waste another second on someone who can't go along with you and your dreams.

If you're looking for a real relationship, where you're intellectually and emotionally fulfilled, then this is not the right match for you. Not having cheated (as far as you know), is not what makes a relationship, though cheating can break it.

You seem to be in this relationship out of obligation. You don't have him anything. Question is, why are you even in this relationship

If you are not happy or if you feel you can't live life to the fullest you're probably in the wrong relationship. Some people hold you back and others allow you to spread your wings and fly. Only you can decide if your partner is holding you back. My only real advice to you would be to make a decision based on what this relationship offers or doesn't offer. Try not to think thoughts like but if I ditch him I'll be alone. Of course you will, until you find someone else. And that someone might be just what you need.

Well..sorry honey! He’s just not that into u?! If he were...he’d be hanging out right now with u! Btw...u deserve better gal! He sounds like a complete loser! There must be a very good reason why ur giving him the time of day?!!! Does he have a huge slung? Is he a great lover? Great cook? Great masseur? If not...find someone deserving of u sweetheart! This is not a trial run! This is ur life!!!!!!

Leave him. It'll hurt but it's best for both of you. He needs a wake-up call.

where;s his self-esteem? What shit is he smoking?

The first question is what are you getting out of this relationship?

Depending on where you live, no car or DL may not be a big deal. But no job?

Is it all give and you get nothing back in return?

What does he do all these days? How is that possible that he's 26, has no education and doesn't work? Has he worked in the past?
Do you know why is he this way?
Isn't it possible that he's suffering from some kind of mental illness or autism?

I think you've posted this before, to which I said he's a man child. I mean, it depends if that's what you want but you're unhappy and it's understandable. The man is 26 and seems to have no ambition. Easy call.

why does he want a resume? seems inconsistent with how he lives, do you want to help him make one and see what happens?

I think you've outgrown him. Open yourself up to the idea of meeting new people.

October 25, 2018

:| you know better

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Hmm just goes to show how much a woman is in it for the economy.