I need real advice please!

So, I have been in a relationship for almost 3.5 years. My boyfriend is 26 and lives about a 10 min walk from me so we used to hangout almost everyday. My boyfriend doesn’t work, has no education, still lives at home, does not have a car or drivers license, he never takes me out anywhere (never has) besides to eat and even that I have to plan! He is also very immature, lazy and full of excuses. I am so unhappy and have given him chance after chance to change but he always has an excuse. He says I need to help him make a resume because he doesn’t know how? He is 26 years old!!! I have to add, he is nice to me and hasn’t cheated (as far as I’m concerned). I am just looking for advice, should I leave this relationship or wait around for him? If you have the time, I would love for you to go into detail! I am so lost and no one I know has been in this situation. Thank you in advance! 🙂

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Northwest · M

If you're looking for a real relationship, where you're intellectually and emotionally fulfilled, then this is not the right match for you. Not having cheated (as far as you know), is not what makes a relationship, though cheating can break it.

You seem to be in this relationship out of obligation. You don't have him anything. Question is, why are you even in this relationship

Spoiledbrat · F

She doesn’t seem very excited to be with him. She put him down in ten different ways. I think that he asked for her help on a resume is the least of her problems. And how much do you want to bet me that she would jump at the chance to help him if she was even a little bit happy with him. @Northwest

Northwest · M

@Spoiledbrat In my opinion, a happy relationship, is an equal relationship, with both parties contributing emotionally, intellectually, etc. This is a one-sided relationship and will go nowhere.

I don't know how much education she has, but if he's not educated, and has no interest in learning, then it's worse.

My niece had a boyfriend, who worked as a clerk, in her dad's store. He did not evolve, did not want to evolve, did not want to go beyond high school. In the meanwhile, she was finishing law school, and was admitted to the bar, in 3 different states, at age 23 (recently). I advised her to drop him, long ago, but it took her two years to do so, and now feels so much better.

Spoiledbrat · F

I can agree with there. It sounds like went in different directions and grew apart. I’m sorry to hear but glad she’s on the mend. @Northwest