I need real advice please!

So, I have been in a relationship for almost 3.5 years. My boyfriend is 26 and lives about a 10 min walk from me so we used to hangout almost everyday. My boyfriend doesn’t work, has no education, still lives at home, does not have a car or drivers license, he never takes me out anywhere (never has) besides to eat and even that I have to plan! He is also very immature, lazy and full of excuses. I am so unhappy and have given him chance after chance to change but he always has an excuse. He says I need to help him make a resume because he doesn’t know how? He is 26 years old!!! I have to add, he is nice to me and hasn’t cheated (as far as I’m concerned). I am just looking for advice, should I leave this relationship or wait around for him? If you have the time, I would love for you to go into detail! I am so lost and no one I know has been in this situation. Thank you in advance! 🙂

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SW-User

The major question is do you love him? Part 2 of that is do you love him enough for this to be your life?
Personally, I would regret spending my life with someone who wasn't motivated to find work and have his own hobbies.
You say you're unhappy and want him to change. Based on this I would say it's time to move on. (I think you know this and are just seeking validation.)
Find someone who makes you happy, that you don't want to change.

Darcyxo · 26-30, F

@SW-User I haven’t felt love for him in months, I care but I do not love him anymore. I don’t know why I’m still with him, maybe his family or I’m just afraid of change!

SW-User

@Darcyxo I think it's the fear of change. When you're in the habit of something then the alternative can seem scary.

Fernie · F

@Darcyxo I'd bet anything that you are afraid to be alone...to have to date and find someone else...this is the trap women put themselves into when they stay for this reason. You need to look within and get the hell OUT!It's you who has to change..not him. You need to treat yourself with more dignity