I need real advice please!

So, I have been in a relationship for almost 3.5 years. My boyfriend is 26 and lives about a 10 min walk from me so we used to hangout almost everyday. My boyfriend doesn’t work, has no education, still lives at home, does not have a car or drivers license, he never takes me out anywhere (never has) besides to eat and even that I have to plan! He is also very immature, lazy and full of excuses. I am so unhappy and have given him chance after chance to change but he always has an excuse. He says I need to help him make a resume because he doesn’t know how? He is 26 years old!!! I have to add, he is nice to me and hasn’t cheated (as far as I’m concerned). I am just looking for advice, should I leave this relationship or wait around for him? If you have the time, I would love for you to go into detail! I am so lost and no one I know has been in this situation. Thank you in advance! 🙂

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Bubbles · 36-40, F

Hi there Nicole. While people in your real life may never have been in this situation, there are a lot of people in this world, and a lot of people here, who have been in a relationship with a dead beat. This guy sounds like someone who is just bringing you down. Based on your question, it seems like you really do know the answer to what you need to do. That being said, the hardest part I think is for us to realize that we are worth more. We stay in bad relationships because our own self worth issues. So, I am telling you this. You and everyone like you, deserves a partner who is smart, educated and hardworking. People don't change, so waiting around for him to change is only going to result in you becoming more and more unhappy, and a lot of times results in staying in a bad situation because it is comfortable. It is time to think about you and your happiness!!