Dating questions

Why is it men start a conversation on dating site and when i respond, they say "Sounds great", "Ok" or something like that and don't say anything after that.

Does that mean they don't want to prolong the conversation or do they want me to take the initiative and talk more?

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NCCindy · 36-40, F

Way too many guys have spent too much of their life playing video games or staring at their phone and don't have a clue how to carry on an intelligent conversation.

SW-User

@NCCindy Most women can't seem to carry a conversation either.

Peterbilt1955 · M

@NCCindy This is true, but there are women who are just as bad about gaming.

ColonelFlytrap · 70-79, M

You can expect that from them for the rest of the relationship. Listen to people when they tell you they are assholes, they already know. If you want a relationship with a guy who will communicate - we call those "relationships" - then pay attention. He is probably just responding while he levels-up on some game, or while mom makes him a sandwich.

Sireeshak · 41-45, F

@ColonelFlytrap There are many more meaningful and complete conversations on SW compared to dating site.

StevenIzzi · M

The issue is that these guys are on a dating site and with all the guys on that site they are in shock that there may be an interest in them and they are now dumbfounded how to continue the conversation.
They are concerned that any topic they may initiate may be a deal breaker.
It is easier for them to respond to conversations that focus on the women's topic of interests.

SW-User

what are your responses like? it sounds like they don't think you're interested at all.

Sireeshak · 41-45, F

@SW-User Here is the thing, since i don't know any one on the dating site, just by looking at the profile, they all are ok. Couple of guys really stand out. Yeah, may be i should be proactive.

SW-User

@Sireeshak this is the kinda response that would make me say 'sounds great' and not reply anymore. I asked you something specific, you pretty much chose to ignore that and answer a question I didn't ask. very indicative that you're not engaged in what I'm saying and just want to say what you have to say, possibly wanting me to ask about some certain things, but no hints as to what that might be.

Sireeshak · 41-45, F

@SW-User I usually answer to questions. Today a dude asked, "What are your looking for?"

I told him, "Based on our profiles we don't have common interests, since you said you can start out with friendship and see how it goes, i like that idea."

He responded, "Sounds great"

So what does that mean, we continue chatting until the friendship builds?

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Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F

You have to engage both are responsible for continuing conversations. No one wants to do all the work

Sireeshak · 41-45, F

@Mrsbetweenfatandfit yeah but i don't want to ask a guy on a date, so i usually remain quiet. If they don't chat probably it means they are hesitating too?

Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F

@Sireeshak no it isn’t to do with asking a date it is about doing your share in conversation

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Sireeshak · 41-45, F

@SeekingHappiness I thought, we find a profile we like introduce ourselves and go on a date. I didn't know there is chatting phase involved prior to first date.

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