@Crys76 I try to forgive, if only for my peace of mind. Forgetting is another story. It serves as a reminder not to be taken in or made a fool of again.

@exexec I don't forgive easily, but eventually I do - most of the time, anyway. I never forget.

@nobodyishome What did I do about what?

@Horace Fair enough.

@Unefilletrescurieuse I agree. Those memories stay. I'm not sure how people actually ever forget the betrayals.

@LadyBronte I’m with you on that.

@Justmeraeagain Forgiving is the best if it can be managed. And I agree. Offer grace where grace is given.

Restitution, even a simpl3 sincere apology, can go a long way. When no sincerity is forthcoming, we have a choice to forgive or not. I try to for my own peace of mind. Sometimes it takes a hot minute, but normally I can manage somewhere down the line.

@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout Yeah. I get that in a real way! Things can never be the same despite heartaches and wishes.

@Musicman Good for you. So few people can truly do that.

@LadyBronte It's just how I am wired. I get over stuff really fast.

@Musicman Good for you.

@nobodyishome Yeah, I don't forget either, but I try not to dwell.

@Markmywurdz I think that's pretty common.

@LadyBronte Nice to know it’s not just me getting old and bitter.

@Markmywurdz Well, coming from someone who is probably just old and bitter, I'm not sure you should reply on my comments. Lol.

@Ontheroad Agreed. Forgetting lets them do it again.

@GoFish Agreed.

@Magenta There are many memories I wish I could purge. Sadly I carry them with me until the end of time. And no, none of us are saints. I try to forgive, but often, forgiveness proves difficult, especially if betrayal was intentional and cruel.

@LadyBronte It's not a nice feeling to expect betrayal. I try take each person as a chance. Like a blank slate.

It's easier to give chances when people are like stars. Letting light shine for a brief period before returning to being unlit. Just means I have to keep making my own light. Cringe, I know but it is such.

So... Then I can become so bright >:3 people who don't get closr to anyone can't help but get close. Then it just takes the right time and the place.

@twistedrope No, it isnt a nice feeling at all. I live with it everyday. I still give friendship a try, but nothing deeper. The pain of losing a friendship is much less intense and devastating than being betrayed by someone you loved and believed in. We should always strive to make our own light, so keep shining bright.

@LadyBronte You are a great one. Your lights pretty bright too.

@rinkydinkydoink Self introspection can be a good thing from time to time. I think the reason I routinely ask these types of questions is because I am continually seeking the answers myself and I wonder where others stand on the subject. Thanks for taking the time to answer. Honesty with self is often the most difficult honesty there is. Maybe learning to forgive yourself and perhaps even seeking the forgiveness of those you've hurt will make it easier to contemplate the past. 🤷🏼‍♀. I don't know, but it's worth a thought.

@ninalanyon Lol. Yep

@hunkalove I try to forgive even if only to give myself peace of mind. I don't forget. When the betrayal is intentional, nothing can ever the same.

@Busybee333 Yes, that particular depth of connection is gone.

@BrandNewMan I try to forgive for my own peace of mind, though it can often take a hot minute. But the forgetting...nah. I have never figured out how to do that and am not sure I ever want to.

@EldritchFox Can't blame you!

@LadyBronte Indeed, I knew that before I tried the whole forgive and forget routine - but I made an exception because of cardiac muscle tissue. Sometimes we know something but life still has to teach it to us for more of a 3D effect haha.

That's ok. Life gave me proof.

I forgive people now before they do anything. I guess I expect it now - expect it and accept it, peacefully. It works out better for everyone this way.

@Magicianzini Thats a good strategy, if you can do it. I'm not sure I could. Life taught me hard this last time.

@LadyBronte Yes, I can do it because I have to do it. And indeed, me too. I don't want to have to retake that class again.

@bowman81 Finding the ability to forgive and forget?

@PinkMoon Fair enough.