So my bf apparently confessed to me yesterday

It works for some people and he’s been honest about it. From what I’ve heard there are guidelines and rules in place and things such as after care that the couple communicate together. Worse would be hiding it from you and getting his needs met elsewhere. If it’s not for you move on.

He should have been upfront about it from the start, I’m sorry.

It sounds like you aren’t going to let him push you into anything you don’t want to do which is good.

Have you talked more about it and can he keep that to himself moving forward?

It can be fun if you do it right. Have clear boundaries. My bf is a quiet reserved guy while im more expressive and energetic. So getting him to play dom top is a fun change of pace.

Sorry his way to love was incompatible. For me, I could never maintain such a relationship with a control aspect.

Resembles resentment and fear too much to be enjoyable for me.

if thats how he worded it NOOOOOOO, those relationships are not to be taken lightly. its not something you can just do at the drop of a hat.

and any kind of submission/worship has to be earned......meaning he has to be able to show and prove hes worth all that.

i was a sex therapist for years.

I am sorry @UnderstandMe but.... when you think about it.... maybe it was something he ate which affected him. I think you ought to try to get him to a counsellor as soon as possible

Nah it’s cool. Imagine you being the submissive one. He takes care of relationship and everything. I have heard submissive is sometimes not allowed to change their clothes, go to washroom or speak without permission.

I had a master for awhile and he was very dominant . When I moved in with him he had many pairs of high heels and stockings and outfits for me to wear. The first day he had me put on red high heels and black fishnets and made me sit in chair and he took clippers and shaved my head bald and then every Saturday he took me to barbershop and in front of everyone I had to have my head shaved and it was very humiliating

A true D/s relationship isn't abusive, and is actually controlled by the sub.

Unless he actively got involved by talking with real Doms (not controlling Sadists pretending to be Doms), via longer term education, attending "munches", etc. (WITH YOU)...run.

A true Dom, as any person in a relationship, cherishes the sub. And it's a journey together (as in any relationship), not a take-it-or-leave-it deal.

It is a very rewarding relationship style. Nothing abusive about it.

If that's how he worded it, RUN.
That's not how healthy versions of this type of relationship start.

If it is what he likes, it is what he likes. Find someone else instead of demonizing his own sexuality. He will find someone who can enjoy engaging it.

That sucks! It's a nightmare of any healthy relationship. But tell you what, there are still so many reading my response and hating me when I say they love it. Throws up*

You can probably just tell him that you're not into it and he'll drop it?

It’s not fucked up just not for you. Others might want that relationship. You don’t. Just tell him you don’t want it. If he’s not ok then you reevaluate.

No just no...

Run....

Yeah, kinda odd to change the relationship now.

How about give him a reverse uno card, and now he has to obey and worship you

Time to put this toxic dude in your rearview mirror. Aim higher. You deserve better.

For one night in the bedroom?

Pull out a leather whip snap it and tell him to get on his knees. Life should never revolve around sexual kinks if he wants that occasionally in the bedroom that's one thing all the time that's called slavery

If you don’t want that? Break up with him!

And why are you upset?

He doesn’t deserve you

Is it just occasional role play or a lifestyle thing?

Run away. Sex addict red flags. Unless u also have an agenda then good for u.

Wtf…😬

Girl leave asap rocky 🏃🏻‍♀💨

Dump him or comply

He needs a darn good spanking!

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Seems as though he was trying to trick you by getting you “on the hook” and then springing it on you. There has to be some place on the internet where you can OUT that conniver.