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What does it mean when an Ex hits you up?

Ugh… 😒
So my ex (ok guy, relationship ended on ok terms) Sent me a txt asking if we could talk…
I waited a bit but I did call him back. He’s telling me that he misses me, and that loosing me was the biggest mistake of his life. (I doubt it) And he wants me to give him another chance… ( he ended the relationship btw)

I honestly thinks it’s bs, like no one suddenly txts their ex right? He must have some other intentions in mind 😒

Thoughts, opinions? (Be nice please) 😕
Katwoman · F
That he's a sore loser begging to come back after being sorely rejected by someone expecting you to pick up the mess. Heck no.
Katwoman · F
@AlexAndria00 The crap one would have to do to win me back if they really wanted it......would be massive. Don't fall cheap.
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@Katwoman yes I’m not falling for his trap ☹️
Katwoman · F
@AlexAndria00 Stay safe 🌹
Thespis · M
Hard to say, I don't know how someone would text in this case and it not be sudden. He could really have those feelings, there's nothing to say it's not genuine. However, nothing to say he's not just saying things to manipulate you, or maybe he just wants a booty call. I would trust your gut, if you're not interested in anything from him then let him know and go on your way. If you think you'd like to get back together, you should take it at your speed with the boundaries you want. Just don't get pushed to something you don't want.
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@Thespis wow 👏🏻 Yes I definitely understand ☹️ Thank you I’m not gonna get back with him, I know that.
It just bothers me how this made me feel 😒
Thespis · M
@AlexAndria00 How did it make you feel hearing from him? If you want to talk about it by DM feel free to message me. I'm happy to listen, you can just vent, process, or if you want I'll offer thoughts and advice.
vetguy1991 · 51-55, M
Sometimes when a guy is lonely he reaches out to someone he has history with
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@vetguy1991 with what intentions in mind? 🤔
vetguy1991 · 51-55, M
@AlexAndria00 usually horny
Don't do it! Usually, it has nothing to do with love, and everything to do with control. What they mean is, I miss you waiting on me hand and foot and telling you what to do. That's all they miss. What he told you, is what they always say. He is just a bit lonely and missing "something" familiar in his life, but he thinks it's you. He's having a melancholy moment, that's all, and you notice he didn't say he loves you, but that he just misses you. He misses the control and that's it. My own personal opinion is that if you went back you would be 100 times more sorry. Don't fall for it. That's the same thing my ex tried to pull on me. He didn't mean it at all.
Matt85 · 36-40, M
It could be because he both wants to bang AND see's special qualities in you.

Or it could be either.
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@Matt85 I see lol
At least your honest 😂
black4white · 56-60, M
It means he is probably desperate or lonely or horny or truly misses ya. To return to that relationship where he dropped the ball would NOT be good for you and would be the start of on and off type of bs. Keep moving past it otherwise you would have been trying to get him back long ago
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@black4white thank you ☹️
StarLily · 51-55, F
[quote]I honestly thinks it’s bs[/quote]
That's your instinct... and I would trust it.
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
Hard to say without knowing him. He might be lonely or just want sex. He might actually miss you too. Decide what you want from him and then get what you need while figuring out what he wants.
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@Muthafukajones he’s an ok guy, and I see him sometimes but idk, he ended it for a reason, so what’s his reason for wanting to come back?
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
@AlexAndria00 talk to him. People make mistakes. The reason I usually go back to a girl has to do with some amazing quality she has that I cant easily find elsewhere at least not easily. That might be why he wants to get back. Finding nice pussy isn’t hard so it’s probably something else.
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@Muthafukajones 🙈😂 At least you’re honest lol
I like that
Jorogumo · F
You only have two options,tell him you are not interested or respond talk to him and work out what HIS motives for the contact are....everything else here is just speculation based on personal values and personal experiences.
He's more likely lonely and horned up and thinks you're an easy lay and just going to use you then probably disappear.

One word
@AlexAndria00 Speaking from experience...
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@Chernobylplaygrounds ugh men huh 😒😂
walabby · 61-69, M
Ugh...😟 , says it all.....
GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M
It’s a scam for sure
He's depressed and remembering the happy times he had with you. He sees your absence as the cause of his sadness and your company is the logical cure. Wait a few days or weeks before making a possibly life altering decision
gdon39 · 41-45, M
I bet he really does miss you. That doesn't mean he is not without nefarious motives. Don't take the bait, he's going to have to do much better than a text to show sincerity.
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@gdon39 thank you, I know exactly what mean ☹️
It means youre his back up plan and that his Plan A failed .
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@OogieBoogie basically huh 😒😂
Teslin · M
Well, he may be sincere in his intentions. You said your relationship ended well.
My thought is that it totally depends on where YOU are right now. If you have moved on, then let him know this.
But, if you are asking here on SW, you must be thinking about it? Good luck in whatever decision you make.
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@Teslin I’m not talking him back, I know. I just hate it how he came back all of a sudden and I feel like ugh 🙈
Teslin · M
@AlexAndria00 Good for you.
I think most people would be conflicted as you are.
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@Teslin thank you, my mind is sure, but my heart is dumb and blind because it can only feel, it cannot see 😒🙈
justanothername · 51-55, M
It means he’s not having any luck hitting on other girls and he misses having his dick sucked.
justanothername · 51-55, M
@AlexAndria00 it means you bruised his fragile boy ego.
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
Convivial · 26-30, F
Either of two things... He's genuine in what he says or he's horny.... Time will tell which one it is
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@Convivial you’re right lol
Convivial · 26-30, F
[@AlexAndria00 all cases covered lol
Jessmari · 41-45
In situations like this I like to recall a simple quote from Stephen King. "But that's enough. Fun is fun and done is done."
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@Jessmari nicely put ☹️
What was the cause of the break up?
Have those issues been resolved?
Are there any deal-breaker issues that are unresolvable?
Have the two of you learned anything from your mistakes?
If so, how would you do things differently?
Do you still love him?
Do you share similar values, goals and preferences?
If you got back together, what might it be like? Would you want long term commitment and kids together? If you got pregnant, do you think he'd make a good dad?

The answers to these can help you decide.
HE, is the ONLY one who can tell you that. Everything else is conjecture.
Just don't overthink it. IF you want to respond go for it, if not then don't.
deadgerbil · 22-25
He probably just wants to have sex tbh
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@deadgerbil probably huh 🙄😒
deadgerbil · 22-25
@AlexAndria00 bring him to Jesus Christ
A lot of bad advice going on in this thread, but what they say, jaded... is *possibly* true.
Northwest · M
It means he got dumped, and he's horny.
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@Northwest probably huh
He got his karma
MrGoodbar · 46-50, M
Honestly, I hate to be blunt about it but he probably wants sex
LunaRavenWolf · 26-30, F
Ego boost or lonely
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@LunaRavenWolf damn ☹️
LunaRavenWolf · 26-30, F
@AlexAndria00 whatever you do don't entertain him.
Your biggest mistake will be responding AT ALL.
AlwaySmilez · 22-25, F
He wants to bone !
fenomen02 · 41-45, M
tell him to go to hell
AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M
He’s lazy and horny.
Josh1454 · M
He wants in your pants.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
You’re in his head. The sex with you is/was much better than the woman he left for. So, he’s irreparably mind-fucked and wants back in.

However, he left for a reason. That reason likely still exists. Tread carefully.
Funlov · M
You must’ve been good
Funlov · M
@AlexAndria00 good for you I wouldn’t take them back you’re focussed that’s what matters. Cheers.
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@Funlov thank you 🥹
Funlov · M
@AlexAndria00 don’t thank me be true to yourself, your feelings, I’ll never ever ever lie to you. Trust your feelings.
HatterM · 46-50, M
If you don't talk to him, you won't really ever know, but if you think he's manipulative and you don't trust him, why even go there?
SarithBorn · 18-21, M
It's up to you how u want to handle this. Question is do you want him back? 😇
Pretzel · 61-69, M
not sure - how long ago was the breakup

seems like renewals don't go well after a breakup
Khenpal1 · M
Do you want him back ?
AlexAndria00 · 22-25, F
@Khenpal1 no hell no lol
I just hate how it brought up old feelings 😒
basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
It could be either genuine regret and stil having feelings for you. Or it could be a booty call. I'd recommend be cautious, but civil.
caccoon · 36-40

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