Transference Older Woman - Younger Man have you been there?

@Bklynbadboy12 absolutely!

Personally speaking I'm in a relationship with a much younger Man , so asking the question to explore other prospectives .

I mean theres no one size fits all ..right?

@SomeMichGuy Brilliant!

@Kae20 maybe there's the appeal of it being slightly taboo?

@Flowerz Especially when many guys at that age are immature.

@Kae20 You can think what you like, but the coincidence of hormone peaks and the older women seeing my potential more than explain it.

@SomeMichGuy hun I was agreeing with you.

Also there was something you said

[quote] and liked my shyness/quote]

Has me thinking that ..maybe one the reasons why some older women are attracted to teenage boys is that - they might see them as being less threatening than older adult males.

Perhaps theyve had bad or difficult experiences with grown males. So then find a young boy much more easier to handle 🤔

Its just a thought ..I could be way off . Having said this there is no excuse for encouraging a relationship with a boy who is under the age of consent. Which in the UK is 16yrs .

@FreeSpirit1 🙂 Okay what are the 3 best aspects you enjoy?

@Kae20 the thrill of him being attracted to someone much older is a turn on and flattering to me, most have much more stamina than guys my age and most are not looking for a wife .

@Jeephikelove if your not attracted to him ..it wouldn't work anyhow. Aside from that 22 years is a huge gap.

However I know of couples where it has worked. Like any serious relationship it comes down to both having essential needs met .

I recently remarried and my husband is 17 years younger than me.


Two years ago, I entered the dating scene and reluctantly at first, began for the first time relating with younger men

This persuaded me , That indeed I could take an age gap relationship serious. Prior to that I would have taken a lot of convincing.

In any case , as are getting to know each other , we would sensibly expect most new relationships to be casual.

However for me once I realise that I am serious about a man , I would then without wasting any time prefer to marry over dating.

It's the highest level of commitment two people can enjoy . Why continuously 'date' when you can both enjoy the very best your relationship can offer

@Kae20 congratulations on your recent marriage. 🎉

@akindheart what's up? 🙂

@bwcdadddy lots. lets catch up!

@Wiseacre There may very well be.

For me I unexpectedly discovered ( out of the blue ..it seemed ) that boys generally around the age of 7-10 begin detatching themselves from their mothers .

Perhaps its a societal thing, were they are encouraged to become more grown up or its natures way a natural shift 🤔

I felt saddened by this .

Since becoming involved in my previous relationship ( where my partner affectionately referred to me as mummy) I felt somehow less saddened @ losing the childhood relationship I had with my son , before he quite suddenly grew up.

And happy to allow my partner to forfil that role instead.

Still we were both 'non -related '
consenting adults . Is this a harmless dynamic. Is the question? .

I see no harm in it..@Kae20

@Wiseacre :) I dont either

@nameless1 there's some truth in that. But if they didn't would you prefer to be with a man your age ?

@Kae20 i used to prefer men my age cuz we had so much more in common but im pretty fed up with men at the moment



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@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout So then natural for some grown men to want to rekindle a relationship similar to what he once had with his mother ..before was told he had to grow up?

@Bklynbadboy12... Isn't it something nice that we can talk freely with someone who can perceive our perspective and lifestyle.?