Transference Older Woman - Younger Man have you been there?

@Flowerz did you enjoy

@Flowerz At that time, 3 yrs WAS a bigger deal.

@Flowerz Its hard to do age gap when young

A 23 year old woman will not want a sixteen year old boy but he WILL

She uses her head at that age and he doesnt

@Flowerz Initially when I read 3 yrs , I thought ..thats not much of an age gap.

🙂 but when I went on to read that you were 19. I became very interested. Because traditionally men mature at a slower pace to women.

So now I'm wondering what was it about this 16 year old guy that appealed to you ?

@Kae20
[quote]Because traditionally men mature at a slower pace to women.[/quote]

In what way(s)?

@SomeMichGuy its about brain funtion and reasoning look here


https://www.mic.com/articles/111226/science-explains-why-women-are-faster-to-mature-than-men


When I read @ flowerzdtj was 19 yrs to his 16 , I was intrigued as to know what it was that she felt they had in common?

@Kae20

Ms. Storr's story misrepresents the study, and confuses the colloquial notion of "maturity" with brain structural maturity.

In your specific answer, you say

[quote]its about brain funtion and reasoning look here[/quote]

Ignoring the two [i]sic[/i]-s, the study actually says that

[quote]Emerging data suggest that small-world topology and modular organization in brain networks are already present during early development (Fan et al. 2011; Yap et al. 2011) and that these core features of brain networks are retained during brain maturation despite significant ongoing anatomical modifications. (Bassett et al. 2008; Fair et al. 2009; Gong et al. 2009; Supekar et al. 2009; Hagmann et al. 2010).[/quote]

Thus, the pruning is not changing those elements of brain structure which are important, but making the connections more efficient.

(For reasoning, the structural maturation of the frontal cortex, which *is* the seat of decision-making, is not the focus of the study, since it would be either a ROI or a structural element/node in the network, and the study is looking at the *network* development, not the *node* development.)

The Storr story also ignores the study's acknowledgement that men's brains tend to be larger in volume...thus meaning that the network starts with more connections, necessarily...

Of course, a story ending with a mention of farts would not impress *me* as the place to find reliable scientific information about brains, and would seem to even provide evidence counter to the notion you and Ms. Storr are trying to push.

If you want to explain why high school girls think that they are more "mature" than boys their age, you might consider

• the conflation of "sexual maturity" with the very different notion of general "maturity", and

• the differences in how hormones hit males and females.

These are easy to observe, and graphs are easily found or find graphs for.

(And the study authors might want to familiarize themselves with Poisson statistics if they are going to use smaller datasets.)

@SomeMichGuy Brilliant!

@Kae20 maybe there's the appeal of it being slightly taboo?

@Flowerz Especially when many guys at that age are immature.