IPmyPants · 41-45, M
BIBLE
robertsnj · 56-60, M
Dial 911 and Die. I am American. It is a book written by a lawyer outining at the state level why the police have no duty to protect you and advocates that personal safetly is more of a personal responsibility in the USA The stories are court public opinions where the victim dialed 911 and the police were inactive or really slow to the call.
The book lists court cases for I think almost every state as examples and talks about the Supreme Court Case of Town of Castle Rock vs Gonzales that probably impacts lower courts opinons.
it is an anti- police book but more of a book pointing out police are not obligated to protect you (if you are American) even if you dial 911.
The book lists court cases for I think almost every state as examples and talks about the Supreme Court Case of Town of Castle Rock vs Gonzales that probably impacts lower courts opinons.
it is an anti- police book but more of a book pointing out police are not obligated to protect you (if you are American) even if you dial 911.
Nobody recommends books to me. I am a hermit, a man who exists outside space and time. I inhabit my own world. It is not a world without traffic or weather or the low-grade irritations of daily life, but a world in which those things arrive already filtered, already subordinated to an inner rhythm that has long since ceased to synchronize with the calendar or the market or whatever book is being praised this week as “urgent.”
When people say, You must read this, they are usually talking to one another, not to me. Recommendation presumes a shared present, a common pulse: the sense that we are all standing in the same moment, looking at the same horizon, worried about the same things. I am not. I am elsewhere—sometimes decades elsewhere—sitting with a sentence that has already survived its own moment and no longer needs witnesses.
Books come to me the way memories do: without announcement, without justification. I do not discover them; they resurface. A line half-remembered suddenly insists on being completed. A voice I have not heard in years clears its throat. I open a book not because it is new but because it has waited. The waiting matters. It means the book has detached itself from fashion and entered a slower orbit, one governed less by relevance than by necessity.
There is a peculiar freedom in this exile. I do not read to keep up, to be conversant, to have opinions ready for deployment. I read to inhabit another consciousness fully, to submit to its tempo, to let it rearrange my internal furniture. The cost, of course, is social. You cannot easily discuss a novel you are rereading for the fourth time when everyone else is busy ranking the ten best books of the year. But that conversation has never tempted me much. It is too vertical, too evaluative, too eager to conclude.
My reading life is horizontal. One book leads sideways to another: an allusion, a shared anxiety, a common cadence of despair or delight. A Russian novel opens onto a French diary; a philosophical aside sends me back to a poem I read at seventeen and misunderstood entirely. Time collapses. Influence becomes conversation. The dead are not dead at all; they are merely quieter than the living, and infinitely more patient.
This is what it means, I think, to exist outside time—not to reject it, but to refuse its pressure. The present is loud. It shouts its claims. It demands attention in the name of urgency. But literature, real literature, does not shout. It murmurs. It waits for the reader who is willing to slow down enough to hear it.
So no one recommends books to me, and I do not miss it. I live among my own recommendations, accumulated over a lifetime, stacked not on shelves but in memory, each one marked by the moment it entered my life and the person I was when it did. I am a hermit, yes—but not a lonely one. My solitude is crowded.
When people say, You must read this, they are usually talking to one another, not to me. Recommendation presumes a shared present, a common pulse: the sense that we are all standing in the same moment, looking at the same horizon, worried about the same things. I am not. I am elsewhere—sometimes decades elsewhere—sitting with a sentence that has already survived its own moment and no longer needs witnesses.
Books come to me the way memories do: without announcement, without justification. I do not discover them; they resurface. A line half-remembered suddenly insists on being completed. A voice I have not heard in years clears its throat. I open a book not because it is new but because it has waited. The waiting matters. It means the book has detached itself from fashion and entered a slower orbit, one governed less by relevance than by necessity.
There is a peculiar freedom in this exile. I do not read to keep up, to be conversant, to have opinions ready for deployment. I read to inhabit another consciousness fully, to submit to its tempo, to let it rearrange my internal furniture. The cost, of course, is social. You cannot easily discuss a novel you are rereading for the fourth time when everyone else is busy ranking the ten best books of the year. But that conversation has never tempted me much. It is too vertical, too evaluative, too eager to conclude.
My reading life is horizontal. One book leads sideways to another: an allusion, a shared anxiety, a common cadence of despair or delight. A Russian novel opens onto a French diary; a philosophical aside sends me back to a poem I read at seventeen and misunderstood entirely. Time collapses. Influence becomes conversation. The dead are not dead at all; they are merely quieter than the living, and infinitely more patient.
This is what it means, I think, to exist outside time—not to reject it, but to refuse its pressure. The present is loud. It shouts its claims. It demands attention in the name of urgency. But literature, real literature, does not shout. It murmurs. It waits for the reader who is willing to slow down enough to hear it.
So no one recommends books to me, and I do not miss it. I live among my own recommendations, accumulated over a lifetime, stacked not on shelves but in memory, each one marked by the moment it entered my life and the person I was when it did. I am a hermit, yes—but not a lonely one. My solitude is crowded.
swirlie · 31-35
@FrogManSometimesLooksBothWays
In that case, I will take the liberty to act on behalf of the OP of this thread to place a black check-mark in the 'no' box of this question beside your name.
...and you are welcome in advance.
In that case, I will take the liberty to act on behalf of the OP of this thread to place a black check-mark in the 'no' box of this question beside your name.
...and you are welcome in advance.
LavidaRaq · F
I am currently reading The Snow Child by Eowyn Ivey. I’m not finished yet, however it’s such a different kind of read. I don’t want it to end. I’m sure it will be a favorite that I will reread.
It was a recommendation on ticktock of something different than the norm and rarely brought up. Which it is.
It was a recommendation on ticktock of something different than the norm and rarely brought up. Which it is.
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DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
Ruthless Creatures . It's a mafia romance. It's not my cup of tea but my work bestie loved it and begged me to read it.
GerOttman · 70-79, M
Dr. Mary's Monkeys - Edward T. Haslam
Recommend by my dad. Very interesting and compelling story!
Recommend by my dad. Very interesting and compelling story!
Not sure it'd be considered a book, but the program plan which was recommended by my boss.
Thevy29 · 41-45, M
The way of kings by Brandon Sanderson. It was recommended by a fellow SW user last year, year before. I forgotten their name.
Rokan · 36-40, M
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John M. Gottman is a guide for parents on teaching children emotional self-awareness and regulation through a five-step "emotion coaching" process, based on Gottman's research on parent-child interactions.
dancingtongue · 80-89, M
Tie between This Way Up! (given to me by my granddaughter) and The Secret Life of Groceries (given to me by my son). Read concurrently.
Harmonium1923 · 56-60, M
I’m currently reading The Ministry of Fear on the recommendation of @SmoKin.
SmoKin · M
@Harmonium1923 my copy came today!
Harmonium1923 · 56-60, M
@SmoKin Outstanding! I’m about halfway through.
SmoKin · M
@Harmonium1923 SLOW DOWN! My dad has joined the group he’s 84
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
Never.
My taste in literature is too esoteric.
Why I don't even listen to movie critics. It's a waste of time.
Before I will buy anything I do read the summaries. That usually will determine if it's worth it or not.
My taste in literature is too esoteric.
Why I don't even listen to movie critics. It's a waste of time.
Before I will buy anything I do read the summaries. That usually will determine if it's worth it or not.
Starchild1983 · 41-45, F
The silent patient. I’m currently reading it
Katie01 · F
I don't think I've ever read a book
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ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
Ooo, no idea. I just buy/read what I like.
Iwillwait · M
The Bible
swirlie · 31-35
@Iwillwait
Okay, but let me point something out to you...
The question of this thread asked "What is the last book that you read specifically because someone recommended it to you?".
You replied "The Bible".
My question to you was, 'why was the person who recommended that you read the Bible, thinking that you were specifically in need of reading the Bible?
Obviously that person must have thought you specifically needed to read the Bible, so what had you done that had led them to believe that you should read the Bible?
How did they know that you had NOT read the Bible up to that point in your life?
Okay, but let me point something out to you...
The question of this thread asked "What is the last book that you read specifically because someone recommended it to you?".
You replied "The Bible".
My question to you was, 'why was the person who recommended that you read the Bible, thinking that you were specifically in need of reading the Bible?
Obviously that person must have thought you specifically needed to read the Bible, so what had you done that had led them to believe that you should read the Bible?
How did they know that you had NOT read the Bible up to that point in your life?
ThirstenHowl · M
possibly The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho, or Love in the Time of Cholera
by Gabriel García Márquez (both recommended by the same person)
I haven't read a book recommended by anyone in a long time, and I generally read non-fiction rather than fiction
by Gabriel García Márquez (both recommended by the same person)
I haven't read a book recommended by anyone in a long time, and I generally read non-fiction rather than fiction
Boeing · 36-40
The summer I read to Kill a Mocking Bird, a friend gave it to me...
Boeing · 36-40
@JohnnySpot is there a movie? I have not seen it
JohnnySpot · 56-60, M
@Boeing Robert Duvall plays Boo Radley, his first starring role.
Boeing · 36-40
@JohnnySpot I will get to watch it at one point...
OriginalNedKelly · M
A guide to a successful marriage - written by some feminist hating males
Never read the book and still married after 45 years and 5 months
Never read the book and still married after 45 years and 5 months
Lostpoet · M
The Book Thief wasn't disappointed.
A Pillow Book by Suzanne Buffman
swirlie · 31-35
Anyone who recommends a specific book for you to read, is like someone who pulls a package of breath mints out of his pocket, pops one in his mouth, then offers you one as well.
The question is, why did he offer you a breath mint and why is he recommending a specific book for you to read?
The question is, why did he offer you a breath mint and why is he recommending a specific book for you to read?
Boeing · 36-40
@swirlie all this thinking implies that we are taking things personally, and when I say to work with Spirit, that means that you are trusting that beyond the surface reasoning, lies something else..a deeper reasoning.
I brought my story as an example, my own learning experience. I also took it personally against my boyfriend back then, following a similar way of thinking that you are portraying here. But years later I found that book myself and bought it.
You know what, I think I will suggest this book to you.
That book my ex gave me few years ago and I didn't want it because I was thinking what were his reasons for getting me this gift, and I was so strongly opinionated that I almost missed the gift. Almost, I didn't.
The Traveling Cat Chronicles - Hiro Arikawa
Now I must go and sleep 🪻
I brought my story as an example, my own learning experience. I also took it personally against my boyfriend back then, following a similar way of thinking that you are portraying here. But years later I found that book myself and bought it.
You know what, I think I will suggest this book to you.
That book my ex gave me few years ago and I didn't want it because I was thinking what were his reasons for getting me this gift, and I was so strongly opinionated that I almost missed the gift. Almost, I didn't.
The Traveling Cat Chronicles - Hiro Arikawa
Now I must go and sleep 🪻
swirlie · 31-35
@Boeing
You shouldn't take these debate posts personally like you're doing, Boeing.
Though I understand what you learned when you bought the book yourself in the bookstore where you learned about purple and yellow flowers, the fact remains I'm sure that to this day, that you may still not know 'why' your ex-boyfriend bought you that book.
Let's face it, you unloaded your ego onto him while dismissing him completely for not buying something specific that would acknowledge you personally.
You may never know why your ex-bf thought it necessary to buy that book for you in the first place, though all you do know for sure from that experience is that when purple and yellow flowers are appearing in a field that death is nearing.
Question that remains is, were purple and yellow flowers something your boyfriend wanted to tell you about? ..or was there something else in that book that caught his attention that he thought worthy of making that purchase?
Unfortunately, your anger at him for failing to acknowledge your self-perceived 'specialness' overruled any good judgement you could have otherwise imparted to the situation and that last question of mine may never get answered, no matter how many times you read his book that you ended up being guided by Spirit to buy yourself.
Had you chosen to accept his gift at face value and you then read about purple and yellow flowers appearing in a field and you were able to share that information with him at the time, that one passage in the book may have been the purple and yellow flowers that were present in a form of essence which preceded the death of your relationship with your ex-boyfriend.
Instead of receiving advanced warning of that failing relationship ahead of time, you received that warning after the fact as you read about purple and yellow flowers after you bought the book. It wasn't okay for your boyfriend to buy the book, but it was okay for YOU to buy the book. Why is that? I really don't know for sure.
That is why I said in my post that when someone suggests that you read a specific book, not unlike being offered a breath mint, you must ask them why they are making that suggestion by their camouflaged offering to you.
Enjoy your journey 🌾
You shouldn't take these debate posts personally like you're doing, Boeing.
Though I understand what you learned when you bought the book yourself in the bookstore where you learned about purple and yellow flowers, the fact remains I'm sure that to this day, that you may still not know 'why' your ex-boyfriend bought you that book.
Let's face it, you unloaded your ego onto him while dismissing him completely for not buying something specific that would acknowledge you personally.
You may never know why your ex-bf thought it necessary to buy that book for you in the first place, though all you do know for sure from that experience is that when purple and yellow flowers are appearing in a field that death is nearing.
Question that remains is, were purple and yellow flowers something your boyfriend wanted to tell you about? ..or was there something else in that book that caught his attention that he thought worthy of making that purchase?
Unfortunately, your anger at him for failing to acknowledge your self-perceived 'specialness' overruled any good judgement you could have otherwise imparted to the situation and that last question of mine may never get answered, no matter how many times you read his book that you ended up being guided by Spirit to buy yourself.
Had you chosen to accept his gift at face value and you then read about purple and yellow flowers appearing in a field and you were able to share that information with him at the time, that one passage in the book may have been the purple and yellow flowers that were present in a form of essence which preceded the death of your relationship with your ex-boyfriend.
Instead of receiving advanced warning of that failing relationship ahead of time, you received that warning after the fact as you read about purple and yellow flowers after you bought the book. It wasn't okay for your boyfriend to buy the book, but it was okay for YOU to buy the book. Why is that? I really don't know for sure.
That is why I said in my post that when someone suggests that you read a specific book, not unlike being offered a breath mint, you must ask them why they are making that suggestion by their camouflaged offering to you.
Enjoy your journey 🌾
Boeing · 36-40
@swirlie usually people have a good intention of wanting to help us, and whilst we are the authority that choses whether to allow that help or not, depending on where we are seeing our path unfolding, and only us can see - I am very well aware of that authority Swirlie.. What I had to work on though, to live a more fulfilling life, is to know when to take a step back and allow another - since the idea of Spirit isn't making sense to you and that's perfectly fine - so, to allow another to co-create.
Yes it was my self importance and my ego that got in the way, that didn't allow me to receive his gift at that time given.
Another truth that is very subjective, is how I read very little actually. People meet me and I might give an impression of reading books but it takes me months to finish one, as I read a page - and a page might need 3 days to digest. So very subjectively, the real reason for me is that I cannot read few books per year and then within them add the gifts. Although I am considering myself to be very lucky to be in a position to be loved enough to be receiving gifts - I think that is what makes me angry in your approach, that you focus on the personal choice and you completely dismiss the other person giving something - yes many have twisted personalities but they still gift from their soul -
Let's recap this, from my side at least!
My ex's gesture was sweet but the timing for me to read that book wasn't right. I think he asked from his sister, as she was more sophisticated than himself, to get a book for me, I never made sure but I was suspecting that from conversations, and what made me angry was that, he didn't put the time to get me a gift but asked from someone else to do the "job". And perhaps because of the perceived intentions, I blocked myself from receiving that gift. But also, perhaps the blockage was important - I read that book at the right time!
It was a story of a cat, and at the time I was volunteering at a cat sanctuary, all made sense.
All in all that's a great book ahahahahah I would recommend, it is written by a sweet Japanese woman and is full of care, easiness and tender insight, not forcing it into your face but gently in the background....I guess Japanese are talented with it..
Thank you for the conversation, I am glad I stayed so far:) have a nice day 🌸
Yes it was my self importance and my ego that got in the way, that didn't allow me to receive his gift at that time given.
Another truth that is very subjective, is how I read very little actually. People meet me and I might give an impression of reading books but it takes me months to finish one, as I read a page - and a page might need 3 days to digest. So very subjectively, the real reason for me is that I cannot read few books per year and then within them add the gifts. Although I am considering myself to be very lucky to be in a position to be loved enough to be receiving gifts - I think that is what makes me angry in your approach, that you focus on the personal choice and you completely dismiss the other person giving something - yes many have twisted personalities but they still gift from their soul -
Let's recap this, from my side at least!
My ex's gesture was sweet but the timing for me to read that book wasn't right. I think he asked from his sister, as she was more sophisticated than himself, to get a book for me, I never made sure but I was suspecting that from conversations, and what made me angry was that, he didn't put the time to get me a gift but asked from someone else to do the "job". And perhaps because of the perceived intentions, I blocked myself from receiving that gift. But also, perhaps the blockage was important - I read that book at the right time!
It was a story of a cat, and at the time I was volunteering at a cat sanctuary, all made sense.
All in all that's a great book ahahahahah I would recommend, it is written by a sweet Japanese woman and is full of care, easiness and tender insight, not forcing it into your face but gently in the background....I guess Japanese are talented with it..
Thank you for the conversation, I am glad I stayed so far:) have a nice day 🌸
Penny · 46-50, F
Atomic Habits and Ikigai






























