What is the last book that you read specifically because someone recommended it to you?
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swirlie · 31-35
Anyone who recommends a specific book for you to read, is like someone who pulls a package of breath mints out of his pocket, pops one in his mouth, then offers you one as well.
The question is, why did he offer you a breath mint and why is he recommending a specific book for you to read?
The question is, why did he offer you a breath mint and why is he recommending a specific book for you to read?
Boeing · 36-40
@swirlie perhaps yes and again, the choice is mine will I take it or not.
3 and a half years ago in my birthdays my boyfriend had gifted me one of these commercial books, I got angry and told him he didn't even take the time to choose something for me but rather he just got what was sold.
3 years ago I left that book in Nepal, on my way to the airport, without having read it.
I forgot about it.
1 year ago last Christmas I enter a crowded bookstore and I see the same book. I bought it.
and I read it and it was a blatant book. But in a page, it was talking about how purple and yellow flowers were appearing in a field when death was nearing.
I was living up the mountain and I begun to observe the colors by which the flowers were appearing, in the end of winter, in the beginning of the spring, in the end of summer. I observed a sequence. As a painter, working with colors, I saw things, I made realizations.
I connect things.
So I trust the ways of life more and more.
3 and a half years ago in my birthdays my boyfriend had gifted me one of these commercial books, I got angry and told him he didn't even take the time to choose something for me but rather he just got what was sold.
3 years ago I left that book in Nepal, on my way to the airport, without having read it.
I forgot about it.
1 year ago last Christmas I enter a crowded bookstore and I see the same book. I bought it.
and I read it and it was a blatant book. But in a page, it was talking about how purple and yellow flowers were appearing in a field when death was nearing.
I was living up the mountain and I begun to observe the colors by which the flowers were appearing, in the end of winter, in the beginning of the spring, in the end of summer. I observed a sequence. As a painter, working with colors, I saw things, I made realizations.
I connect things.
So I trust the ways of life more and more.
swirlie · 31-35
@Boeing
I think you've missed the point of my own post. When someone offers you a breath mint, they are not offering you a candy. A breath mint has a specific purpose for it's creation in the first place. A breath mint is a breath sanitizer in candy-form.
My question was, why would a person offer you a breath mint unless of course you had bad breath that you weren't aware of?
If YOU never thought that you had bad breath, but they offered you a breath mint as if they were offering you a simple candy, their actions of offering you a breath sanitizer that was marketed as such but presented in candy-form, would actually be considered an insult, or at least it should be, rather than just telling you straight-up that your breath is strong.
That is why one should never offer anyone and unsolicited breath mint because to make that offering without being asked, they are telling you that you are unknowingly IN NEED of a breath sanitizer.
When someone offers you a breath mint, they are making a statement to you; they are NOT being hospitable just because they take one from the package for themselves, which they themselves are using as a breath sanitizer to control their own breath.
When it comes to books, my question then went on to say the same thing. When someone suggests that you specifically should read a certain book, WHY are they suggesting that YOU need to read that specific book?
For example, if someone were to suggest that you specifically, should read a certain self-help book from the Psychology section of a book store, that would suggest that THEY think that YOU are in need of learning something about yourself that you clearly haven't learned yet.
Rather than just telling you what that deficiency is in their view, they instead offer unsolicited advice by suggesting you read a specific book where hopefully, you will learn of your apparent deficiency without someone having to tell them, particularly them.
To my point then, when someone specifically suggests a certain book that you should read, you should first question them as to 'why' they are making that unsolicited suggestion to you in the first place.
I think you've missed the point of my own post. When someone offers you a breath mint, they are not offering you a candy. A breath mint has a specific purpose for it's creation in the first place. A breath mint is a breath sanitizer in candy-form.
My question was, why would a person offer you a breath mint unless of course you had bad breath that you weren't aware of?
If YOU never thought that you had bad breath, but they offered you a breath mint as if they were offering you a simple candy, their actions of offering you a breath sanitizer that was marketed as such but presented in candy-form, would actually be considered an insult, or at least it should be, rather than just telling you straight-up that your breath is strong.
That is why one should never offer anyone and unsolicited breath mint because to make that offering without being asked, they are telling you that you are unknowingly IN NEED of a breath sanitizer.
When someone offers you a breath mint, they are making a statement to you; they are NOT being hospitable just because they take one from the package for themselves, which they themselves are using as a breath sanitizer to control their own breath.
When it comes to books, my question then went on to say the same thing. When someone suggests that you specifically should read a certain book, WHY are they suggesting that YOU need to read that specific book?
For example, if someone were to suggest that you specifically, should read a certain self-help book from the Psychology section of a book store, that would suggest that THEY think that YOU are in need of learning something about yourself that you clearly haven't learned yet.
Rather than just telling you what that deficiency is in their view, they instead offer unsolicited advice by suggesting you read a specific book where hopefully, you will learn of your apparent deficiency without someone having to tell them, particularly them.
To my point then, when someone specifically suggests a certain book that you should read, you should first question them as to 'why' they are making that unsolicited suggestion to you in the first place.
Boeing · 36-40
@swirlie all this thinking implies that we are taking things personally, and when I say to work with Spirit, that means that you are trusting that beyond the surface reasoning, lies something else..a deeper reasoning.
I brought my story as an example, my own learning experience. I also took it personally against my boyfriend back then, following a similar way of thinking that you are portraying here. But years later I found that book myself and bought it.
You know what, I think I will suggest this book to you.
That book my ex gave me few years ago and I didn't want it because I was thinking what were his reasons for getting me this gift, and I was so strongly opinionated that I almost missed the gift. Almost, I didn't.
The Traveling Cat Chronicles - Hiro Arikawa
Now I must go and sleep 🪻
I brought my story as an example, my own learning experience. I also took it personally against my boyfriend back then, following a similar way of thinking that you are portraying here. But years later I found that book myself and bought it.
You know what, I think I will suggest this book to you.
That book my ex gave me few years ago and I didn't want it because I was thinking what were his reasons for getting me this gift, and I was so strongly opinionated that I almost missed the gift. Almost, I didn't.
The Traveling Cat Chronicles - Hiro Arikawa
Now I must go and sleep 🪻