What is yalls take on this? Did dating apps ruin dating… or emotional regulation? Or has society and internet culture changed our experiences? Am I
tripping? Curious on your take, please let me know.
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AuRevoir · 36-40, M
This has already been proven at length with both scientific study. As well as psychological study.
Social media and dating apps both contributed to the change that ended up occurring.
90% of the women, end up dating the top 10% of men across all dating apps…
Because those 10% of men have an endless supply of sex partners, they feel no need or pressure to settle down… Thus they continue to date the 90% of women available on the dating apps…
Those 90% of women, for some reason, all believe that they’re worthy or somehow more special than all the other women. And that when they somehow finally get to date one of these top 10% males… That it will last forever, that he is not seeing 3-5 other females on the side or flirting or cheating with him. And that his 6 figure income is somehow going to be directly hers…
Meanwhile 90% of men have the remaining 10% of women to pick from… So even the 10% of women end up having unlimited options and feeling overly special that they too eventually end up believing they can Join the 90% of women who believe they are going to end up with a top 10% man..
This is all under the looped effect that has been thoroughly documented where women tend to overvalue themselves. Oftentimes without being able to state what they are able to contribute or offer in a relationship outside of sex…
Thus society has an endless cycle of top 10% male earners having pretty much ran through all the vast majority of women who use dating apps… And most women not realizing they made a mistake until they hit a proverbial “wall” sometime between the ages of 40-45… While some more self aware women realizing they haven’t hit a wall yet, but it’s quickly approaching at around the age of 35…
The wall is a metaphoric anecdote for being able to have a child with your do or die lover.. Since it becomes much more difficult for a woman the older she ages, their desirability becomes less towards future prospects of finding love since most men have an inherent desire to sire children and leave behind a legacy by raising said children.
Not everyone can be a millionaire. And everyone seeing YouTubers and tik tokers and Instagram people, oftentimes faking lavish lifestyles by getting themselves into debt in hopes of becoming popular enough to generate money from social media had contributed to unrealistic expectations in the dating scene.
On the other hand social media has exposed women for being cruel and having insane expectations which has lead to many men also increasing their expectations and deciding to abandon dating altogether if those expectations are not met. Many of those expectations coincidentally leaning towards the exact opposite qualities women have been priding themselves on. They have multiple sexual experiences which men are no longer considering to be wife material. They no longer know how to cook or be submissive in any capacity which men are chalking up to being red flags.
A major solution to this being the passport bro trend where men are finding that women from foreign countries have more traditional mindsets and are able to meet the needs and desires they have for qualities they’d like in a wife. This however leaves a disparaging gap of “leftover” females. Which foolishly have decided to use their best defense of mocking men who seek women out this way. It didn’t work for Hollywood. Nor did it work for game development studios. But somehow, rather than realizing this as a poor move to make. Women have doubled down rather than taking any accountability on their part. And men just like women, are continuing to increase their standards.
So yes, everything has changed in the dating scene and has been efficiently documented.
But it doesn’t mean that dating is no longer occurring. It’s just no longer occurring on what used to be considered the normal way 15 years ago.
Social media and dating apps both contributed to the change that ended up occurring.
90% of the women, end up dating the top 10% of men across all dating apps…
Because those 10% of men have an endless supply of sex partners, they feel no need or pressure to settle down… Thus they continue to date the 90% of women available on the dating apps…
Those 90% of women, for some reason, all believe that they’re worthy or somehow more special than all the other women. And that when they somehow finally get to date one of these top 10% males… That it will last forever, that he is not seeing 3-5 other females on the side or flirting or cheating with him. And that his 6 figure income is somehow going to be directly hers…
Meanwhile 90% of men have the remaining 10% of women to pick from… So even the 10% of women end up having unlimited options and feeling overly special that they too eventually end up believing they can Join the 90% of women who believe they are going to end up with a top 10% man..
This is all under the looped effect that has been thoroughly documented where women tend to overvalue themselves. Oftentimes without being able to state what they are able to contribute or offer in a relationship outside of sex…
Thus society has an endless cycle of top 10% male earners having pretty much ran through all the vast majority of women who use dating apps… And most women not realizing they made a mistake until they hit a proverbial “wall” sometime between the ages of 40-45… While some more self aware women realizing they haven’t hit a wall yet, but it’s quickly approaching at around the age of 35…
The wall is a metaphoric anecdote for being able to have a child with your do or die lover.. Since it becomes much more difficult for a woman the older she ages, their desirability becomes less towards future prospects of finding love since most men have an inherent desire to sire children and leave behind a legacy by raising said children.
Not everyone can be a millionaire. And everyone seeing YouTubers and tik tokers and Instagram people, oftentimes faking lavish lifestyles by getting themselves into debt in hopes of becoming popular enough to generate money from social media had contributed to unrealistic expectations in the dating scene.
On the other hand social media has exposed women for being cruel and having insane expectations which has lead to many men also increasing their expectations and deciding to abandon dating altogether if those expectations are not met. Many of those expectations coincidentally leaning towards the exact opposite qualities women have been priding themselves on. They have multiple sexual experiences which men are no longer considering to be wife material. They no longer know how to cook or be submissive in any capacity which men are chalking up to being red flags.
A major solution to this being the passport bro trend where men are finding that women from foreign countries have more traditional mindsets and are able to meet the needs and desires they have for qualities they’d like in a wife. This however leaves a disparaging gap of “leftover” females. Which foolishly have decided to use their best defense of mocking men who seek women out this way. It didn’t work for Hollywood. Nor did it work for game development studios. But somehow, rather than realizing this as a poor move to make. Women have doubled down rather than taking any accountability on their part. And men just like women, are continuing to increase their standards.
So yes, everything has changed in the dating scene and has been efficiently documented.
But it doesn’t mean that dating is no longer occurring. It’s just no longer occurring on what used to be considered the normal way 15 years ago.
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PatKirby · M
@AuRevoir
Very well articulated and I've seen the studies before.
Correct. The operative term is 'alpa widow' because they shoot for only those top 666 men (6 figure$, 6 feet tall, 6 pack abs) thereafter. However those top quality, high value men take their pick of the litter every night of their lives, never intending to date her again. Yet she settles for no one below this metric again feeling she can get it, thus the alpha widow moniker. Kinda like an intentionally dangling carrot tempting forever and ever with no chance of capture.
Hypergamy is at the core of it.
[media=https://youtu.be/31V5ssPOPk8]
Very well articulated and I've seen the studies before.
Those 90% of women, for some reason, all believe that they’re worthy or somehow more special than all the other women. And that when they somehow finally get to date one of these top 10% males… That it will last forever, that he is not seeing 3-5 other females on the side or flirting or cheating with him. And that his 6 figure income is somehow going to be directly hers…
Correct. The operative term is 'alpa widow' because they shoot for only those top 666 men (6 figure$, 6 feet tall, 6 pack abs) thereafter. However those top quality, high value men take their pick of the litter every night of their lives, never intending to date her again. Yet she settles for no one below this metric again feeling she can get it, thus the alpha widow moniker. Kinda like an intentionally dangling carrot tempting forever and ever with no chance of capture.
Hypergamy is at the core of it.
[media=https://youtu.be/31V5ssPOPk8]
OogieBoogie · F
@PatKirby i dont agree with the graphs presented in the video.
I think its a graph, designed by one genders view of both men and women.
Not 'all' women think the way the presenter claims we do.🤷♀
I think its a graph, designed by one genders view of both men and women.
Not 'all' women think the way the presenter claims we do.🤷♀
MayorOfCrushtown · M
The internet paired with dating apps have ruined the relationship in general for youths who never got the opportunity to be humans. Learn and grow together as people meet and interact. Taking chances to say hello in public. To be turned down to reciprocate a potential attraction in the moment.
Internet sucks for human interaction.
Great for information.
Only problem is too much of something good leads to worse problems
Internet sucks for human interaction.
Great for information.
Only problem is too much of something good leads to worse problems
HoeBag · 51-55, F
Dating apps are nothing but catfish and scammers.
I am surprised anyone even bothers. Plus, don't most of them charge? Who wants to pay just to either be rejected or have to deal with scammers? I think most people can experience that for free on every site, not just dating ones.
I am surprised anyone even bothers. Plus, don't most of them charge? Who wants to pay just to either be rejected or have to deal with scammers? I think most people can experience that for free on every site, not just dating ones.
LordShadowfire · 46-50, M
@HoeBag All of them charge. Every single one. Even the ones that advertise that they are completely free. You set up an account, upload a couple of pictures, write your bio, and if somebody clicks on your bio and likes what they see, you get a notification. But then when you try to click on that notification, they ask you to upgrade to a monthly subscription in order to see who liked your profile.
Every. Single. Time.
Every. Single. Time.
HoeBag · 51-55, F
@LordShadowfire Oh I believe it.
But paying for those, H3ll it ain't even worth that.
I mean what if someone pays and sees their match(es) and it is some complete POS or they live in BFE with their "ex"?
I mean I don't know cause I ain't used a dating site in umpteen years. Maybe 2013, it wasn't too bad back then. Had a couple short-terms, talked to a few, I can't complain.
But anymore, I hear nothing but bad news about those sites, especially what you said.
But paying for those, H3ll it ain't even worth that.
I mean what if someone pays and sees their match(es) and it is some complete POS or they live in BFE with their "ex"?
I mean I don't know cause I ain't used a dating site in umpteen years. Maybe 2013, it wasn't too bad back then. Had a couple short-terms, talked to a few, I can't complain.
But anymore, I hear nothing but bad news about those sites, especially what you said.
LordShadowfire · 46-50, M
@HoeBag Which is exactly why I recently got rid of all of them.
LordShadowfire · 46-50, M
I'll tell you what ruined it. It's not just dating apps. It's the subscription model. Every single app out there claims to be free, but then when you want to go and see who looked at your profile, you've got to pay for that.
You know what I'd like to do to the person who invented the subscription model? I'd like to put him in an airtight room with a coin-operated air machine. Every five minutes, he has to put in another penny, or no more air.
You know what I'd like to do to the person who invented the subscription model? I'd like to put him in an airtight room with a coin-operated air machine. Every five minutes, he has to put in another penny, or no more air.
HoeBag · 51-55, F
@LordShadowfire
Remember when youtube comments were flooded with stuff like that?
Really? A "ur mom" joke? Those are so tired and overused.
Remember when youtube comments were flooded with stuff like that?
LordShadowfire · 46-50, M
sp1dwoOfe221 · 36-40, M
AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M
It ruined the way the brain regulates and releases oxytocin and dopamine and serotonin .
sp1dwoOfe221 · 36-40, M
spot the chatgpt ezsay
Magicianzini · M
Self-centeredness ruined ... well, everything