being · 36-40, F
Yes of course it is. Kindness given with discernment, meaning that, to not be wasted whereas you know there's no open channel to receive it.
I was listening to this podcast this morning, they were discussing, how in the 60s this wave of love brought fear to those who weren't ready to receive it and so what later followed was an extreme oscillation, as a polarity within our societies and therefore ourselves.
It's good to be kind with all, and know when the situation asks for a bridge.
Sometimes we can bridge with kindness, sometimes we cannot.
I was listening to this podcast this morning, they were discussing, how in the 60s this wave of love brought fear to those who weren't ready to receive it and so what later followed was an extreme oscillation, as a polarity within our societies and therefore ourselves.
It's good to be kind with all, and know when the situation asks for a bridge.
Sometimes we can bridge with kindness, sometimes we cannot.
class · F
- But humans are wired for reciprocity. Wanting appreciation or hoping for goodwill in return doesn’t necessarily cancel out the kindness. It just makes it human.
- Mutual benefit isn’t inherently bad. Many acts of kindness create a positive feedback loop. You feel good, the other person feels good, and relationships deepen. That’s not selfishness—it’s connection.
- The spectrum of motivation. Think of it like a scale: pure altruism on one end, pure self-interest on the other. Most of us live somewhere in the middle.
- Mutual benefit isn’t inherently bad. Many acts of kindness create a positive feedback loop. You feel good, the other person feels good, and relationships deepen. That’s not selfishness—it’s connection.
- The spectrum of motivation. Think of it like a scale: pure altruism on one end, pure self-interest on the other. Most of us live somewhere in the middle.
Casheyane · 31-35, F
Good question. Let's call it intentional kindness that demands reciprocity.
Humans using kindness to manipulate humans into being kind back. It sounds ugly when described that way. But in most situations, it is what we're looking and hoping for after all. Perhaps it is something about being human that holds onto that kind of hope and gets offended when it doesn't receive what it wanted or expected.
Humans using kindness to manipulate humans into being kind back. It sounds ugly when described that way. But in most situations, it is what we're looking and hoping for after all. Perhaps it is something about being human that holds onto that kind of hope and gets offended when it doesn't receive what it wanted or expected.
Iwillwait · M
Yes, but if it's under so e sort of obligatory pressure, no. That's transactional.
I am kind and expect you to be respectful in return.
I am kind and expect you to be respectful in return.
LILPapi69 · 46-50, M
That is a complex philosophical question. While pure altruism involves no expectation of return, an act done with an expected benefit is often described as reciprocal or transactional. Many argue that true kindness must be unconditional to be genuinely altruistic.
Zonuss · 46-50, M
No. It means you are greedy. ☺