People who joke about being abused

I always find it a bit unsettling when people who were abused joke about it, I mean each person has their own way of coping but to joke about something that horrible for me, has always been hard to take. Being abused is the last thing I'd joke about.

There is nothing funny or cute about being abused. It happened to me as a little girl over 6 years and I was lucky to live through it, but not before I was burned, beaten, and raped . I have ptsd because of it and am always ready to have to defend myself even though it was so long ago. They must be lying, because those who have been abused rarely mention it.

I assume it is a coping mechanism, but like you, I would be very uncomfortable being around anyone making jokes about serious abuse.

I used to joke about it because it made me really uncomfortable and nervous to tell people the truth at first. It was always something I had to hide. So letting it out was awkward for awhile until I settled with it.

People are where they are. Best not to judge, it’s not helpful for anyones growth.

The way i see it is we should all be able to laugh at ourselves. Sometimes finding humor in one's own suffering is the best way to cope.
And some people do make up stuff up to get attention or to get off.
Hard to say who is laying or telling the truth.

If they can joke about it great. If they joke about it in front of other survivors it's really disrespectful.

Everyone deals with trauma differently. It's like when someone puts themselves down in a humourous way to (Beat the potential "Other," before they raise the insult first.)

It's not uncommon where the ones who have been abused have grown to accept that kind of behavior and liking it in their ongoing life style

I like your pfp.

right because moping about it and continuing to let it drain your life away has always produced positive results. cant speak from a womans perspective, but as a man you dont have a choice. You suck it up and move on with your life, either that or lay down to die.

I was abused but I cope by making jokes about it as before I used to self harm or get drunk or do destrucive things so I found an better way to cope. I only ever joke about my own

For some it’s “whistling in the graveyard"—a coping mechanism to feel less victimized. But others who need to joke about such a painful and dehumanizing experience, haven’t come to terms and are in denial.