I Am A Loner And Probably Will Always Be A Loner

I've lived alone for a long time and pretty recently decided to move about 100 miles away, to the mountains, from where I'd lived for many years. So now I'm REALLY alone. I work alone too. And, for me, it's understanding the difference between being alone and lonely. They're really different things. Thankfully, I just don't get lonely. But I understand that many do. But I think if we act from a place of loneliness we're more apt to make decisions based on a "bad" emotion. I don't think that's the way go. But if you're comfortable being alone, sometimes all it takes is opening yourself up to the idea of having someone in your life in the way you'd like them to be in your life.
The mind is a really, really powerful thing. Sometimes just thinking of what it is that you want is enough to deliver it to you. The trick is recognizing when it's in front of you and acting on it. And that happens when your remove any kind of fear or doubt that might be holding you back.
Good luck.

If I knew, I'd tell you. It seems essentially impossible at our age unless you just happen by dumb luck to hit it off with a random person at some physical location you frequent, or sign up for dating/socializing sites, neither of which offer fantastic prospects if you're not pretty close to the middle of the psychological bellcurve.

I often consider that we are not [i]supposed[/i] to be dealing with this problem as humans. Like, until a few thousand years ago, people just generally [i]didn't encounter strangers[/i], except on very rare and often violent occasions. Even after the coming of civilization, most people continued to live in outlying hamlets where they grew up and died among the same people they'd known all their lives until quite recently. I sometimes question how possible it really is to form a truly deep connection with someone who wasn't present for any of the formative, watershed moments in your life.

i am in the same boat. when i get lonely, i head into my office. 15 mins there convinces me to go home. i made the right decision.☺️

One method is, if you have some sort of hobby, look to see if there are any regular meetups with others with a similar interest. Local stores may also have forums where you can meet people online and maybe arrange to meet in real life.

I think alone time is a good thing ... just to recharge.

I also think that there is a big difference between feeling alone and being on your own ... one is a state of mind and the other is a fact.

i am in the same boat. i am busy but i wish it were in different activities and not alone. i get it.

Hire an escort. No, not a hooker; an escort. Someone who’s whole job is to be “company”. Most are highly educated and can converse on a variety of topics. If you hit it off (also their job), great. If not, you move on knowing you offended no one and no one will hold it against you

I can relate.How about you take a course in an activity you enjoy or what to learn? Cooking, dancing, martial arts and so on? Then you will meet new people.

I am in the same boat as you. I also am a loner and prefer to be alone at times. And sometimes even in a room full of people, I still would feel alone.

On going struggle forever, mske friends, get tired of having people around. Be alone and forgotten by friends

I enjoy some alone time. Being retired and the wife being retired too. It`s nice to separate myself from her for a while.

I can relate so well, this could have been my post. I'll be watching for answers too if you don't mind.

thanks for sharing,i'm either loner or social depends on the element,

Try a dating site. You two can be alone together.

I'm a loner also, and while I love the privacy, sometimes the loneliness is difficult.

Relax, make yourself available and prince or princess charming will appear.

I'm a loner as well and I'm fine with that. I don't like being around a lot of people.

Today i feel the same as you...

I know what you mean. I love doing things alone. And i dislike gatherings.
But i do appreciate meaningful and profound conversations. Most ppl nowadays are narcissts who don't feel that way and that makes it hard to find the right ppl.

Join some clubs, volunteer in your community.