I Am A Loner And Probably Will Always Be A Loner

I got home today from the gym, arranged my things, drank some water. I checked my phone several times: no messages. I sat on a stool in the kitchen and felt a bit desperate... I would say I'm a loner, and most of the time that's OK: I like being on my own and doing things by myself, I sometimes reject social interactions (parties, gatherings) because I prefer to be alone. Also, because sometimes when I am in those social environments, I feel alone even if I'm surrounded by people.

Anyway. There are days, like today, that I would like to not be alone. But it's like a vicious circle, how do I get out of it? How do I meet people, make meaningful connections? Is there a way out? Do I want a way out?

Just felt like sharing.

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Ynotisay · M

I've lived alone for a long time and pretty recently decided to move about 100 miles away, to the mountains, from where I'd lived for many years. So now I'm REALLY alone. I work alone too. And, for me, it's understanding the difference between being alone and lonely. They're really different things. Thankfully, I just don't get lonely. But I understand that many do. But I think if we act from a place of loneliness we're more apt to make decisions based on a "bad" emotion. I don't think that's the way go. But if you're comfortable being alone, sometimes all it takes is opening yourself up to the idea of having someone in your life in the way you'd like them to be in your life.
The mind is a really, really powerful thing. Sometimes just thinking of what it is that you want is enough to deliver it to you. The trick is recognizing when it's in front of you and acting on it. And that happens when your remove any kind of fear or doubt that might be holding you back.
Good luck.