I Am A Loner And Probably Will Always Be A Loner

I got home today from the gym, arranged my things, drank some water. I checked my phone several times: no messages. I sat on a stool in the kitchen and felt a bit desperate... I would say I'm a loner, and most of the time that's OK: I like being on my own and doing things by myself, I sometimes reject social interactions (parties, gatherings) because I prefer to be alone. Also, because sometimes when I am in those social environments, I feel alone even if I'm surrounded by people.

Anyway. There are days, like today, that I would like to not be alone. But it's like a vicious circle, how do I get out of it? How do I meet people, make meaningful connections? Is there a way out? Do I want a way out?

Just felt like sharing.

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Keraunos · 36-40, M

If I knew, I'd tell you. It seems essentially impossible at our age unless you just happen by dumb luck to hit it off with a random person at some physical location you frequent, or sign up for dating/socializing sites, neither of which offer fantastic prospects if you're not pretty close to the middle of the psychological bellcurve.

I often consider that we are not [i]supposed[/i] to be dealing with this problem as humans. Like, until a few thousand years ago, people just generally [i]didn't encounter strangers[/i], except on very rare and often violent occasions. Even after the coming of civilization, most people continued to live in outlying hamlets where they grew up and died among the same people they'd known all their lives until quite recently. I sometimes question how possible it really is to form a truly deep connection with someone who wasn't present for any of the formative, watershed moments in your life.