Social skills are NOT bothering random strangers and knowing which are appropriate situations to strike up a conversation with someone you don't know.
BlueVeins · 22-25
There is a palpable difference in social engagement between people my age in their twenties and people who are in their forties and fifties. It's not a safety thing. I live in a very safe area, and it happens with men and women alike. You try to make small talk with a guy in his 20's and it's like, they give one word answers until you stop bothering, and then you talk to a woman in her 60s who's alone on the elevator and she won't shut the fuck up about her kids or her birdfeeder or the weather or whatever.
We live in one of the safest eras of human history in terms of crime, statistically speaking, and people are more reclusive, more scared of one another, more lonely. There are legitimate situations where it's not safe to talk to someone obviously, but everyone being standoffish and distant like this doesn't make communities safer. People are safest when they know the people around them and can use each other as a resource for help and support when things are going wrong. I'm not great about this either, but it is a massive societal problem and it's only getting worse.
We live in one of the safest eras of human history in terms of crime, statistically speaking, and people are more reclusive, more scared of one another, more lonely. There are legitimate situations where it's not safe to talk to someone obviously, but everyone being standoffish and distant like this doesn't make communities safer. People are safest when they know the people around them and can use each other as a resource for help and support when things are going wrong. I'm not great about this either, but it is a massive societal problem and it's only getting worse.
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
I hope I am not offending you, but, do you have any other evidence of being high functioning on the spectrum of autism?
Fishy · 36-40, F
@samueltyler2
I mean, I've been trying to find asd things I actually relate to (that aren't an ADHD overlap) since my psychiatrist keeps pointing it out...
However, I don't think what I said in my post has anything to do with autism...
Anxiety? Distrust? General precautions if you live in or come from a rough neighbourhood? Maybe
I mean, I've been trying to find asd things I actually relate to (that aren't an ADHD overlap) since my psychiatrist keeps pointing it out...
However, I don't think what I said in my post has anything to do with autism...
Anxiety? Distrust? General precautions if you live in or come from a rough neighbourhood? Maybe
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@Fishy i think if I were a youth now, I would be in that category. I was always called too serious, i was a sequential friend, never having a wide circle of friends until college fraternity. I never really worked hard at school, managing to always just do well enough to progress, then hit it big by being in the right place at the right time.
TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 46-50, MVIP
If I stare , make humping motions and wolf whistle I’m a creep..
There’s some middle ground somewhere 🤔
There’s some middle ground somewhere 🤔
Fishy · 36-40, F
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout I dunno, lol
Fishy · 36-40, F
pdockal · 56-60, M
If your eyes are burried in your phone & your ears are also engaged how can you be aware of whats going on around you ?
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Fishy · 36-40, F
@NerdyPotato damn then youngins and having dem heads in those papers n stuff.
Back in my day, we didn't have trains
Back in my day, we didn't have trains
ShenaniganFoodie · 36-40, M
You must understand No normal person would want to be social with a Cane Toad, Crow Eater or Sand Groper
Fishy · 36-40, F
@ShenaniganFoodie Sure, why not c:
TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 46-50, MVIP
@Fishy if you used a gun to defend yourself.. even in a home invasion, youl get dragged harder by the law than the home invaders.. 😒
Fishy · 36-40, F
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout This is why we can't have nice things 🫠
FloorGenAdm · 51-55, M
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Fishy · 36-40, F
@Strictmichael75 True, but it might decrease the chances 😶
Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M
@Fishy defenetly not!
You wouldn’t see it coming
You wouldn’t see it coming
When I used to ride public transportation and had my headphones in, someone always wanted to talk 🙄
Fishy · 36-40, F
@NativePortlander1970 ikr?
It's like, take a hint 😂
It's like, take a hint 😂
@Fishy Exactly
Fishy · 36-40, F
@NativePortlander1970 I had someone do this to me at a library once...
in the one place where everyone is meant to be quiet, and I was obviously trying to read a book...
and the dude is trying to get me to talk about football 😂
in the one place where everyone is meant to be quiet, and I was obviously trying to read a book...
and the dude is trying to get me to talk about football 😂