does someone ever drop a detail of their childhood that makes you say "oh, that makes sense"
my roommate said his dad never apologized when they were growing up. this is something he also seriously struggles with
I overshare... but, the reason why I overshare is because I never had any privacy growing up.
I don't know what it's like to not have my secrets broadcast half way around town.
In fact, looking back now, I see that my own mother confessed to others that she was sexually abusing me from a young age - and no one said or did anything to even tell her that she shouldn't be sharing what she did to me because she could still be prosecuted for it as long as she lived.
That is just one example of the "secrets" she talked about.
I don't know what it's like to not have my secrets broadcast half way around town.
In fact, looking back now, I see that my own mother confessed to others that she was sexually abusing me from a young age - and no one said or did anything to even tell her that she shouldn't be sharing what she did to me because she could still be prosecuted for it as long as she lived.
That is just one example of the "secrets" she talked about.
itsok · 31-35, F
one of my close friends has no memory of either of his parents ever saying they loved him, in childhood or adulthood.
He told me he doesn’t think he’s ever told anyone he loved them. Of the 8 years we’ve know each other I’ve told him i loved him once, and he nervous giggled. And he gave me a sympathy hug once
He told me he doesn’t think he’s ever told anyone he loved them. Of the 8 years we’ve know each other I’ve told him i loved him once, and he nervous giggled. And he gave me a sympathy hug once
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
I’ve found that being willing to say I’m sorry in earnest or being willing to admit that I do not know something are among my greatest strengths of character. So many people seem to struggle with both.
HumanEarth · F
My dad never apologized for the damage he did us kids and my Mom, if that's what you're getting at.
I'm not sure if I understand your post 100%
I'm not sure if I understand your post 100%
Frostcloud · F
@HumanEarth just if you hear a detail about a person and realize that's something that made them into who they are today. ie, someone really likes sunflowers and then you learn randomly one day they used to grow sunflowers with their mom. it doesn't have to be about apologizing, it was just my example that made me think of this question
HumanEarth · F
greensnacks · F
Frostcloud · F
@greensnacks i'm pretty good about it. i know the relief to recieve an apology and how easy it makes it to move on. but if i don't like the person or feel seriously misunderstood ngl it makes it a bit harder at times 😩
greensnacks · F
@Frostcloud yeah it's harder with people that you don't like. That's normal I think.
trollslayer · 46-50, M
Yes. Many times with my wife.
Stabilizing for humanity, I don't condone the use of technology to profit and control
Not supported by reality, no processing that bs