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Suicidal or not?

My boyfriend quit his job, threatened to hang himself and stood in a bridge contemplating jumping off then resigned his job of 7 years. I came to look after him and when he doesn't want to do something for his own good he says he'll just jump out the window. Apart from that he can shower, eat, sleep and play playstation.

I've been suicidal before and I was completely different. I had to keep going to hospital to be given sedatives because I couldn't sleep kept panicking and was always depressed.

Second time I was withdrawn from everyone and lost a lot of weight while I was already slim and then I swallowed all my anti depressants.

The third time I locked myself in the bathroom for a year. Didn't shower for a year and lived out of a kettle refusing to cook and sometimes I'd eat my own shit thinking god will help me if I do that.

That is crazy and suicidal. I was diagnosed with psychotic depression.

I hope he's not using suicide threats as a card. Being suicidal is not easy and needs to be taken seriously.
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I've been genuinely suicidal and it didn't look exactly like your experience with it. It's not always gonna be exactly the same.

As for if he's faking it, that's a question of if you trust him and if your relationship with him is solid.

But the exact nature of his depression doesn't have to look any certain way to be real.
UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@SinlessOnslaught to threaten to jump out the window because he doesn't want to fill out the forms to see a psychiatrist because he wants to watch reels on Facebook is a suspicious way of feeling suicidal. I do not trust him and I feel insulted if he's exaggerating about being suicidal.
Jessmari · 46-50
I couldn't possibly know if he's attention seeking or not. I do know it's his responsibility to seek actual help and that using it to get sympathy from you is manipulative.
UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@Jessmari I just hope manipulation is not the case. Thank you
JackDaniels · 46-50, M
I think he is trying to manipulate you, he knows you left once and doesn’t want you to leave again. He likes having his maid and roommate.
UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@JackDaniels it's disgusting. I hope it's not a me problem where he finds me vulnerable enough to treat this way.
JackDaniels · 46-50, M
@UltimateDemiGoddess it is disgusting and don’t think it is you at all.
UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@JackDaniels thank you
Maybe calling the emergency services will determine that one way or the other.

If he's faking it, he will be pissed. If not, he will be pissed but likely understanding.

As it is, it feels manipulative to me.
@UltimateDemiGoddess Let's say for a second that he is faking it... that could be a symptom of a mental illness.

Obviously, you know that being suicidal can be a symptom of mental illnesses, too.

Sometimes, "Getting into trouble" isn't the right answer, either. No one should be punished for being sick... not even if doctors don't see how sick they are at first.
UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@HootyTheNightOwl I don't think he's mentally sick though. But I get what you mean. Today I was stern with him because he just sucked out all my energy and was carrying on. After I was stern a second time he admitted to often deliberately being difficult... I think he got worried because I'm never stern, he started acting grateful for 5 mins then returns to being difficult and ignorant.... He's mentally ill yet has time to be deliberately difficult and mental capacity to get his way.
@UltimateDemiGoddess I'd see what the experts say.

Quite a bit of what he's doing does tie in with various illnesses - so, there's a chance that he could be diagnosed with something one way or the other.
ScarletWitch · 31-35, F
You... you did WHAT!
UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@ScarletWitch yeah....
ScarletWitch · 31-35, F
@UltimateDemiGoddess i understand. When i was depressed i cut my face open repeatedly with a knife. I cut my face so bad i have huge scars in my face from it.
UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@ScarletWitch I'm really sorry to hear. Glad that you made it through and survived!
GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M
I dont think suicidal people threaten suicide. They just do it or talk about it.
UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@GuyWithOpinions or prioritise indirectly saying good bye to loved ones.
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UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@HoeBag woah that is interesting and a very different perspective. Thank you for sharing that with me. I get what you mean.
HoeBag · 46-50, F
@UltimateDemiGoddess Men do not typically think with the head that is on their shoulders when it comes to romance.
Glad I could shed some light 🙂
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UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout omg I couldn't do that to anyone except my stepmum
@UltimateDemiGoddess he knows what to say to get showered with attention now tho huh?..
UltimateDemiGoddess · 31-35, F
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout I suspect he's being immature but suicide is serious so I don't want to be wrong I'm just cautious. I don't like how he's loosely threatening suicide. When there are people who really need the help, don't get it and die. I was almost one of those people. He never fails to hurt me from choosing porn over me to making a joke of suicide attempts

 
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