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I end up putting myself in similar situations

I tend to put myself in same situations where everyone turn against me and blame me for everything wherever I go. Idk why...
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
If you recognize that you're the problem, then you have the tools in order to change the outcomes.
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
@sahi81 Also, look more broadly. You're in India, am I correct? Many of your problems might be because of aspects of Indian culture over which you have no control or influence. Maybe going somewhere else is something you want to consider.
sahi81 · 22-25, F
@DunningKruger it happened to me when I was in groups with westerners too... Maybe I was around wrong type people, groups, culture or environment
sahi81 · 22-25, F
@DunningKruger I think the common things are culture, toxic environments/groups/places, or leader of group being toxic.

Maybe I am subconsciously drawn to toxic environments and people

Or maybe i appear weak, angry or over -emotional to others so they think they can poke fun of me.
riseofthemachine · 41-45, M
I'm not saying this in a bad way but it's a good way . Your probably too soft 😊
MPath37 · 51-55, M
@riseofthemachine Yes, being hard leads to dark places. We decide who we become, and what we contribute to the world by who and what we decide to become.
sahi81 · 22-25, F
@riseofthemachine I am naive and put others first before myself :) It could be why
MPath37 · 51-55, M
@sahi81 sometimes it's good to put others first. If you always put yourself first, you would be selfish. It's a matter of give and take.
smiler2012 · 56-60
@sahi81 🤔i am not suggesting for one minute this any of your doing as it is not but it make you wonder why people are so vindictive towards you
sahi81 · 22-25, F
@smiler2012 @smiler2012 i think it could be bcuz i behave kinda weird and lack self-love
MPath37 · 51-55, M
@sahi81 self love is crucial
sahi81 · 22-25, F
@DunningKruger tbh not just this often happens to me but also abuse and betrayals in relationships and friendships.

One guy told me I have victim-mindset that's why such things happens to me
MPath37 · 51-55, M
@sahi81 perhaps it could include setting boundaries?
sahi81 · 22-25, F
@MPath37 I was blaming myself for others bad actions, so then he said I'm a weak personality.

Yes, I need to learn, I heard of boundaries... How to set them idk yet..need to learn from Google, therapy, books or online courses
MPath37 · 51-55, M
@sahi81 Yes, all of those are good resources.
Some specific steps are telling people that certain behavior is not OK with you; limiting contact with certain people; completely avoiding certain people . . .

 
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