I end up putting myself in similar situations

I tend to put myself in same situations where everyone turn against me and blame me for everything wherever I go. Idk why...

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sahi81 · 26-30, F

@DunningKruger tbh not just this often happens to me but also abuse and betrayals in relationships and friendships.

One guy told me I have victim-mindset that's why such things happens to me

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

@sahi81 I don't know about that. If you believe that these things are going to happen no matter what you do, then sure, that could contribute to your problems. I don't know what he means by a "victim mindset."

sahi81 · 26-30, F

@DunningKruger he said I have victim mindset and I'm weak personality. Learn to be strong personality or else something more bad gonna happen to me

sahi81 · 26-30, F

@DunningKruger I too dunno what he meant by that....

MPath37 · 51-55, M

@sahi81 perhaps it could include setting boundaries?

sahi81 · 26-30, F

@MPath37 I was blaming myself for others bad actions, so then he said I'm a weak personality.

Yes, I need to learn, I heard of boundaries... How to set them idk yet..need to learn from Google, therapy, books or online courses

MPath37 · 51-55, M

@sahi81 Yes, all of those are good resources.
Some specific steps are telling people that certain behavior is not OK with you; limiting contact with certain people; completely avoiding certain people . . .