Why do most chats end up being about sex

I agree. I rarely PM much now, but years ago I would chat more often. For a few days or a week, the guy seemed to almost actually care to know something about ME too, and was caring and funny etc. as soon as a week hit, or less, it was What kinks do you have? Or what are you wearing?? 😐

I suspect that this is what lots of men are looking for and assume that you have the same motives as well. Also, as one who is not looking into the dating world, I don't interact with men in a sexual manner and let them know, if I feel it's necessary, that I'm not interested. They always go away, sometimes after calling me a lot of names and mocking me for my assumptions. It's the way of anonymous social interactions online.

It must be frustrating and tiring.
I’m guessing it still happens even when you indicate something along the lines of, “you’re just looking for a friend or companionship”.

I can’t give you any advice.
Just wish you all the best.

The horny men are the loudest/most interactive. I imagine it’s even worse on dating sites. Finding intimacy in both platonic or romantic relationships takes a lot of weeding through people and then time and work. I hope you find what you’re looking for.

There are def serious men out there but maybe y'all are looking in the wrong places, no? A "bad boy" isn't gonna commit to you I'm sorry. I think a lot of women reject good men and go after the wrong ones who just want sex and games. If you truly believe all, even most men just want sex and play games, you are def looking in the wrong places, period

Most chats end up being about sex on social media for a variety of reasons, here are a few:
Human Nature: Sex is a fundamental human instinct and a popular topic of conversation. It's a way for people to connect, explore their desires, and gain validation.
Attention and Validation: Talking about sex can garner attention and validation from others. It can make people feel desirable, confident, and noticed.
Escapism: Social media provides a platform for people to escape their daily lives and explore fantasies. Sex is a common theme in these fantasies, as it can be exciting, taboo, and thrilling.
Self-Expression: People use social media to express themselves, and this includes their sexual preferences, orientations, and experiences. It's a way to be authentic and connect with like-minded individuals.
Objectification: Social media often reduces people to their physical appearances, leading to objectification. This can result in a lot of sexual comments and conversations, as people are judged and desired based on their looks.
Hookup Culture: The rise of hookup culture has made casual sex more acceptable and prevalent. Social media facilitates these connections, with people often meeting and arranging hookups online.
Pornography Influence: The widespread availability of pornography has influenced people's expectations and conversations about sex. It's created a culture where people often discuss and compare their experiences to pornographic scenarios.
Anonymity: Social media can provide a sense of anonymity, making people more likely to engage in sexual conversations. They might feel more comfortable exploring their desires and fantasies behind a screen.
Lack of Depth: Many social media interactions are superficial and lack depth. Sex is an easy topic to bring up, as it's relatable and can stir strong reactions, even if it's just for a fleeting moment of excitement.
Algorithms: Social media algorithms often prioritize engaging content, and sexual content tends to generate a lot of engagement. This can create a feedback loop where sexual content is constantly pushed to the forefront.
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If you find a way to get them to realize a relationship is more than sex, let me know! This greysexual romantic would love to have a guy crazy about making a connection with emotions instead of genitals.

It's mostly projection. I can't say all, but a lot of us guys have wires crossed where sexual attention is how we feel that we are loved and accepted. For some of us, that is how we connect emotionally. As such, a lot of guys think that is also how women will be, and it can create that miscommunication.

Unfortunately, others just want to get off and they'll do or say anything that they think might help in that goal. And it gets difficult to determine who is seeking actual emotional validation from sex and who is being dishonest just to have sex. But both camps project their own personal desires onto others, thinking everyone is the same.

Some men have a refined way of expressing their desires.

I used to do a little "phone entertainment" and sometimes the ways men said things, I would have to turn off the mic and scream with laughter.

Lol .. I'm sooo glad to see this has not devolved into an overly generalized bashing of all men as misogynistic pigs, or other suitable derogatory terms, who only think about sex and are all horrible creatures. 🫩🙄

Quick question for those beating that drum .. ever hear of the term misandry? It is the term for the same issues involved in misogyny when directed at men. It is rather strongly evident in the tone of some of these comments .. even among some of the sycophantic "men" joining in on the game.

Can you imagine the sh!tstorm response that would be rained down upon any man posting similar comments toward women? To be honest, I don't see that here .. but I regularly see this from women. The double standard is beyond glaring.

So the question .. Are women making these statements truly not able to identify ANY decent men in their lives .. not their fathers, siblings, friends ? Really?

If this were the case, Tinder and Bumble (?) would not be so big.

People should make their intentions clear to avoid misunderstandings.

Well. That's even. They are not giving you that emotional connection, you starving them of sexual connection.
What you're looking for is rare but does exist.

How many guys have you physically dated that never touched you, never held your hand, never tried to kiss you, and never tried to get into your pants? Maybe if they were gay or religious right? maybe not even then.
You talk to that guy at the office, and he is super nice, says all the right things, but maybe you don't notice him checking out your butt when you walk away, wondering what colour panties you are wearing.
This is life, it's about pleasure, and breeding is part of all that.
Online dating is the same thing.. cripes if a guy goes a whole week without wondering about you physically there has to be something wrong with him.
Some women get it, other's never will.

Sorry

Unfortunately what you bring out is true but can't blame the men they are wired that way

I guess that’s why it has to made clear what is a dating site and what isn’t. Some people will take any opportunity to talk about sex with strangers, but this site wasn’t initially set up for dating, and the only people who treat it as such are often preyed upon by catfish. Or they are catfish themselves. 🙁

Very true. Some people just never learned proper communication skills and if they did, they prefer not to use them.

Black Eyed Peas said "gotta get that boom boom boom" & it changed a lot of people's lives

My favorite kinda funny, flirty gif .. cheesy, sure .. but better cheesy than sleazy?

They don't have to be, don't initiate them don't encourage people to talk about subjects you don’t want to talk about....

no chance every meeting another person hear on S,W, not in my life time, so why not cut out the small talk .get to the point,

Many men don't think about what a woman wants or needs or what is good for them as a person. It doesn't even occur to them as a thought.

Sex is humanity’s greatest weakness and also has potential to be its greatest gift. Sex is where women and men are most different and vulnerable.

Just find a gay guy like I did. You get everything you need mentally and emotionally but without the sex.

yeah all the guys send me message and it starts
hi
hi
can i ask you something
i guess
how big are your boobs

every time

'Women need to feel loved to have sex, and men need to have sex to feel loved. I mean we’re fucked from the start' - Billy Connelly

if you have to go online to find a guy or girl, then you have serious social issuies, why not find people where you live???????? are you fn ugly??????????? are you looking for money?? any fn person going online looking is a very serious loser, in a 50 mile readius of a town or city, might be thousands of possible dates,

For all men it’s about sex .

Dating sites are scamms anyway ....

If you didn't want to talk about sex, then why did you start a post about sex? 🤷

Sh!t happens