Why do most chats end up being about sex

Most women who goes online on dating sites are truly just looking for someone to love and who can love them back, but it seems for most men it's about sex and games. Guys a woman or most of them just need a man who is able to communicate in an affectionate manner, using the right words and see what happens. It's amazing what effect just the right words can have on a woman. Please stop with the dirty talk!

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Northwest · M

If this were the case, Tinder and Bumble (?) would not be so big.

People should make their intentions clear to avoid misunderstandings.

Lindie507880 · 46-50, F

That is the problem with most men. They don't make their intentions clear. They start of being all caring and emotionally interested and just when you think you have found the one, BOOM, they want to show you their goods😩😩

Northwest · M

@Lindie507880

That may be true for the men you interacted with, and that makes sense.

You-re in the 46-50 age group. An age group where most men on dating sites are either married and looking to cheat, or divorced and looking for how to maximize their remaining "good" summers. So you're likely to get people who will talk big, but will flake out on you.

The commitment minded men with high EQ are not going to be part of the dating sites rollercoasters, or be part of more selective dating sites, or social media sites that allow social interaction through forums, etc. so you can get an idea if this is a person getting involved with, and in many ways, and even though SW is not a dating site, it would be a good place to figure out the type of person you're dealing with.

So, you need to pick which group of "most men" to jump in with.