Why do most chats end up being about sex

Most women who goes online on dating sites are truly just looking for someone to love and who can love them back, but it seems for most men it's about sex and games. Guys a woman or most of them just need a man who is able to communicate in an affectionate manner, using the right words and see what happens. It's amazing what effect just the right words can have on a woman. Please stop with the dirty talk!

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ViciDraco · 41-45, M

It's mostly projection. I can't say all, but a lot of us guys have wires crossed where sexual attention is how we feel that we are loved and accepted. For some of us, that is how we connect emotionally. As such, a lot of guys think that is also how women will be, and it can create that miscommunication.

Unfortunately, others just want to get off and they'll do or say anything that they think might help in that goal. And it gets difficult to determine who is seeking actual emotional validation from sex and who is being dishonest just to have sex. But both camps project their own personal desires onto others, thinking everyone is the same.