@Miram he cheated on the person he was with before me to be with me.
Which I didn't learn of until months into the relationship.

@basicgirl12

Then that's probably why you're taking it this way. It's reasonable to think he'd do so again and you should totally discuss that with him.

Lying to you and her wasn't okay.

@Miram it wasn't okay. He says he's changed though but ... Clearly I can't trust him

@Ryannnnnn i want to agree with you but what i've read men admitting in deep web forums and on this website... i stick by what i said😹

@DeluxedEdition People on forums and here aren't normal people though haha. It's actually the opposite, when you make something taboo its more likely to be a thing.

@Ryannnnnn i sure as fvck hope so😐 but you're not wrong lOLLLLLLLLLLLL

@basicgirl12 exactly!

The man I loved was plain... Not visually attractive... But to me... He was everything.
The sexiest man in the world.

It didn't stop me seeing visual surface beauty in others... But no one was as deeply beautiful as him

@OogieBoogie
There you go.. My point verified..

Oh and i never said woman are in love with men because they find them physically attractive.. The same goes for men who do not love woman simply because they are physically attractive..

Physical attraction and Love are two very different things..

@Adstar yes, I agree.

Phjsical beauty is a rare anomlly.
Women and men both look.

But women Do not put the importance on physical beauty that men do.

So don't judge us by your standards.

A woman knows when she has her man's attention. If she has it and he looks at porn sometimes she probably won't trip. But if she doesn't there's a problem. @OogieBoogie

Humans are visual in general so marriages are visual too. @OogieBoogie

@Spoiledbrat okay... Justify it how you want.... I don't understand the multitude of dynamics at work here.

And I'm sure its way. More complex than what we are taking about.

I feel for you, I really do.

Being emotially starved is.... Fuck... It's one of the worst forms of punishment.

So I can't condemn you for seeking it elsewhere.

I think... Our perspectives are a little different.

But I understand the Emotional neglect.

I'm fact... New studies are showing that neglect is worse than abuse. At least abuse acknowledges a person.
Neglect denies your existence

It's the cruelest thing to do some one. 😔

@TopOfTheWorld the latter yes

@basicgirl12 in that case it doesn't sound unreasonable to me, just honest and realistic. You can't help your feelings but I hope the hurt soon fades and it doesn't harm your relationship.

@Spoiledbrat did he stop saying it?

He did after I cheated on him. @basicgirl12

@DeluxedEdition 🤔maybe Lissa had a point

@Lostpoet who is lissa

@Jenny1234 crazy cause it's rooted in hard logic that you can neither understand nor stomach.

@basicgirl12 There's no logic here

@basicgirl12 you’re too young to have figured anything out yet. Let’s have this discussion again in 15 years when you’ve gained more relationship experience.