Do you have any trick or tip to stop People pleasing?

Don’t think it’s as easy as flipping a switch. It’s a very long corrective process due to the brainwashing-like effect that’s shaped your heart into thinking it has to be liked by others in order to exist. Unfortunately it takes something like reaching a breaking point and your heart getting broken one too many times for it to finally get the message that this isn’t working. Your brain is already on board by that point but it’s been silenced for too long. It’s just needing your heart to play catch up and when it does don’t be surprised if anger is the main emotion felt for a bit. There’s no room for people pleasing when anger is present, but it’s a natural reaction to uncovering the truth of how people pleasing kept you a prisoner for years, robbing you of enjoying your own happiness instead of the illusion of it generated by being in the service of others.

The question is if you're just nice or give off sycophantic vibes. Because I don't think there's anything wrong with being nice and a bit humble in formal interaction. Many people actually react positively to it, at least where I live. I noticed that what they don't like is when someone acts self-important and privileged.

Not sure if this really answers the question but I think I realized somewhere in early adolescence that no matter what I was doing someone had something to say about it. Pretty soon I started just doing whatever I wanted to and then wait to see who reacted how to what. Now I'm pushing their buttons instead of them pushing mine...

Maybe. When you stop thinking of how another takes your words. We could talk all day how you should give to someone, but if you cant find yourself in how you are expressing just giving to them, you are people pleasing

Just be your truth, if it doesn’t feel right don’t.

I'll tell you what I've told other people pleasers in the past, for what it's worth. If you try to please everyone, you end up pleasing no one.

Read the book “Pulling Your Own Strings” by Wayne Dwyer.

"Would they do the same for me?"

That always helps me