For those who have lost a parent..

No….my dad was my best friend….my mom was a light in my life. I know without doubt that would have traded their lives for mine without hesitation. My dad lost himself to Alzheimer’s….it was a terrible thing….terrible to watch. My mother died young from breast cancer….but she truly believed she was going to a better place. What worried her most was leaving me behind.

I miss my parents every day…they are never far from my thoughts. The pain of their loss has faded…I can think of them now without the tears….remembering only the their love…their support…their unshakable faith in me. And when I need them most, I still feel them with me.

Idk who's saying all this to you because that's the most apathetic and disrespectful thing to say to someone grieving. As easy as it is to be angry with them, let it go because everyone will experience loss. They'll be humbled. 🤗🐻 Also, it is natural to think those things, but I'm sure your dad wouldn't want to trade places with anyone he loves. Especially, his daughter. He'd want you to have the chance to experience life like he had. Any parent that loves their children would. 🩵

Now, to address the dingdongs on the site. May they never mistreat you over this, or so help me God, I'll get hungry....

Not much that’s more insensitive than telling someone who’s lost a loved one to get over it. I’d probably have to step away so I didn’t smack them.

Telling someone to "get over" their parents' death is very disrespectful. Those who have lost a loved one never truly get over it, they simply learn to live with the loss. And I think it's completely normal to have those feelings and thoughts. Grief is an intricate and multifaceted experience, and it's natural to have conflicting emotions and thoughts. Sometimes, the things we think or feel might not reflect our true intentions, and they can also be a result of unresolved issues or strained relationships we had with someone we lost.

I have lost a lot of my family to death. Grandparents, parents, uncles, aunts, cousins, child. You get over it by realising that their lives were their own and that their lives mattered. Each life is a thread in a great tapestry. Each thread must end in order for the tapestry to be complete. You are a thread and you must do your part to fulfil the pattern of the One who created you for this purpose.

I've lost both and no I've never felt that.
It's ok to feel anything or everything. It's all a process. At least grief does soften with time.

When I hear or read the words "get over it" to any emotional situation it makes me 😡. Feck that! So shallow and childish.

@tylerdurden024 i can understand what you are thinking when my dad passed suddenly in 2014. i was terrible for a very long time i even wished i was dead too be with him but obviously your mind is all over the place .

Guilt no, yet regret and a bit of resentment yes.

Complicated situation. 😞