For those who have lost a parent..

Is there ever a sense of guilt that maybe it should’ve been you and not them? Or thinking it should’ve been the other parent? Am I a bad person for thinking those things? I feel awful about it, but it’s so easy to blame myself when I grieve.
Follow up: how do you react when people tell you to “get over it”? I’ve heard this said to me many times and I never know what to say but my jaw always drops. It’s crazy that people who have never experienced loss think you can just forget what happened with time. No. You never do. It gets better, but you never forget.
Any help or answers are welcome. Thanks.

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RedGrizzly · 26-30, F

Idk who's saying all this to you because that's the most apathetic and disrespectful thing to say to someone grieving. As easy as it is to be angry with them, let it go because everyone will experience loss. They'll be humbled. 🤗🐻 Also, it is natural to think those things, but I'm sure your dad wouldn't want to trade places with anyone he loves. Especially, his daughter. He'd want you to have the chance to experience life like he had. Any parent that loves their children would. 🩵

Now, to address the dingdongs on the site. May they never mistreat you over this, or so help me God, I'll get hungry....

tylerdurden024 · F

@RedGrizzly thank you for your warm words and realness with me. I did not expect so much support and it really means everything to me ♡