do you process externally or internally?
for the most part, i will talk about something once it’s already over and in the past, not while it’s happening.
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
I process messily. I'm working on processing things in therapy, some of it I can't remember. I'm starting EDMR in December.
I'm all over the place because I'm deeply alone. What I go through, I usually try to vent asap because there's no more room in me to store it for a "better" time. So I'm kinda off the wall. People keep me at a distance, understandably for their peace, but that still leaves me bleeding out. So I just bleed. I just let myself be the raw one and I take my beach walks and smoke my weed and go to therapy and vent on here in ways that would probably get me locked in a looney bin irl.
I wish there was space inside me to hide, but it's full, and not all of it is bad. A lot is good. It's just that when nobody gives a shit about you, you don't get the luxury of doing things when it suits. I just bleed.
I'm all over the place because I'm deeply alone. What I go through, I usually try to vent asap because there's no more room in me to store it for a "better" time. So I'm kinda off the wall. People keep me at a distance, understandably for their peace, but that still leaves me bleeding out. So I just bleed. I just let myself be the raw one and I take my beach walks and smoke my weed and go to therapy and vent on here in ways that would probably get me locked in a looney bin irl.
I wish there was space inside me to hide, but it's full, and not all of it is bad. A lot is good. It's just that when nobody gives a shit about you, you don't get the luxury of doing things when it suits. I just bleed.
Livingwell · 61-69, M
I process a lot inside. I used to just keep it there which is really bad health wise. I've learned to vent it through different activities where I am creating or repairing something, doing yard work, or being involved in a hobby. I developed an ability to multitask when I was working and I can think over things in the background. Even process things in sleep and come up with a solution or resolve it to be at peace.
this makes sense, perhaps talking out loud to yourself is still internal processing because it’s not an outside source.
i think external processing is more involving other ppl and talking to them about ur problems. i think a perfect middle ground is therapy, it’s you talking to yourself with the help of someone who can both listen and mirror things back and reaffirm what you are feeling and saying without actually bringing in anyone else.
but therapy is also a form of external processing. so it’s both in a way. right? @FoxyQueen
i think external processing is more involving other ppl and talking to them about ur problems. i think a perfect middle ground is therapy, it’s you talking to yourself with the help of someone who can both listen and mirror things back and reaffirm what you are feeling and saying without actually bringing in anyone else.
but therapy is also a form of external processing. so it’s both in a way. right? @FoxyQueen
FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
@deathfairy I couldn't say. I have done the talking out loud to myself to process things since I was a child. I simply assumed it was because I had no one I felt safe expressing myself and feelings to as a child and having anxiety and PTSD most of my life, so I did the next best thing. It is a good indicator of how stressed I am about the situation though. I know that if I am self talking for more than a day, it is something that has really touched something that I won't be able to process easily.
I never mentioned it to my therapist simply because I realized why I do it and I just have to either ride it out or use a CBT tactic to change course if all I'm doing is repeating the problems and not creating solutions.
I never mentioned it to my therapist simply because I realized why I do it and I just have to either ride it out or use a CBT tactic to change course if all I'm doing is repeating the problems and not creating solutions.
it’s your way of processing things. i think it’s rly healthy. if it works for you, then that’s great. i don’t think it’s anything to worry about, but i am not a professional. just a rando on the great world wide web. <:
i also talk to myself. it’s my way to self soothe. @FoxyQueen
i also talk to myself. it’s my way to self soothe. @FoxyQueen
JimboSaturn · 56-60, M
understandable, i also need time to process things.. i don’t like to make quick decisions. @JimboSaturn
SlippingAway · 46-50, F
Internally mostly, sometimes I compartmentalize, sometimes I disassociate but mostly I just hold it all internally,
Julien · 36-40, M
I go fishing … it really helps
thepeculiarpanda · 36-40, M
perhaps we are all introverts in these comments. @thepeculiarpanda
HallofMirrors · 31-35, M
same.. unless i truly cant work through something on my own and need help.. but asking for help is something i am still learning how to do.. @HallofMirrors
i can see that in you. @V00doo
idk, self help @TheDeathOCuHullainn
@deathfairy It puts a big P in the personal therapy
JackDaniels · 46-50, M
like u don’t rly talk to outside sources to help you process things? bcuz same.. @JackDaniels
JackDaniels · 46-50, M
@deathfairy no i dont, i only talk to me.
JimboSaturn · 56-60, M
JimboSaturn · 56-60, M
@deathfairyOMg so true! 🤣
