I Am A Crossdresser And I Like Me

I have found that this group of people known by a tremendous number of names but in the big picture of the LGBT world the T being Transgender seems encompass everyone who crossdresses, wants to be the opposite sex they were born, and anything and everything that might possibly be in between. I have experienced some of the strongest discriminatory and intolerant people among the very group who you would think would be the most accepting and tolerant. For example, I am very masculine and couldn't pass as a woman anymore than a smart car can pass a Ferrari, yet I love the way hose and most other women's underwear and or clothing feels on me. In the past I've tried to be in touch with some different groups and because I'm not "feminine" or I don't dress fully, or I'm not passable, etc. I have had some in these groups spew vitriol at me. A simple "sorry but you don't fit into our group" would have been sufficient in most cases and there was no need for the hate they were spewing.
I have found some friends on EP that I have had some great conversations with and they are one on one. If you want to be friends and chat about anything I'm just a message away... :)

I don't fit in anywhere so I stopped trying. I figure if people want to know me, they'll just have to fit in with me. ;)

There's nothing wrong with being gender fluid -- people don't know what to expect, because there is no current stereotype for it. I'm glad you can move forward courageously and be who you are. Sometime society will catch up with all the gender variants and explanations will be the exception, rather than the rule - patience! That day will come!

I share your frustration. I have tried many avenues myself and I never seem to fit in.
I have tried gay bars where they accept crossdressers but found myself being attacked by gay men who were hell bent on putting their hands up my skirt.
I have gone to support group meetings and found them very boring. I enjoyed being out in a pretty dress but just found myself sitting in the back corner feeling like a wall flower.
I have met other crossdressers and found their only interest was to get into my panties.
It just would be nice to have a close friend with whom you could share a lot of common interests and crossdressing being only one of them and not the major focus of the friendship.

This is something I've wrestled with myself. I identify as a crossdresser. But some days, it doesn't quite seem to fit. More than one friend has suggested they view me as a transsexual. I try not to over think it, but there is a ton of sexual psycho-babble out there to make your head spin.

I'm in a similar boat as to doing more and more of what I want, worrying less and less about what others may think.

I share your problem. This gender spectrum seems to mean finding a particular box, joining a club, and locking the door. What if things weren't so cut and dried. I don't know where I am on the spectrum and I don't have a box. I am married and playing a particular role which seems to make everyone happy, not that anybody really cares a lot. Were I free to do so, I don't know what I would do, but I would like to be free to find out.

I am in the same boat. I don't care anymore what others think about crossdressing. It's what we are and proud of it. I had many posts here few months back that I deleted coz of people but not all. There have been few people who were and still are good but am over with this hypocrite society.

Well Jessica there is nothing wrong with being a crossdresser and it is a plus that you accept that you are and are gender fluid. And if you like to talk about underwear, that' great too. I do too ...
Lee

All you can do is be yourself.
Hopefully the rest of us can recognize our similarities, accept our differences, and share our insights about being transgendered, to help each other grow into our best selves.

That is sad. You should have nothing to apologize for. You are what you are. A lot of those that know me as Rhonda, are gay and most of the Lesbian appeared to love and excepted more then those that are male. Partly because I was considered an Female Impersonator by girls. I suppose what I am trying to say is this. No one really fit this or that, unless they try to fit.
I am a Transgender, Cross Dresser, Transvestite, Drag Queen, as well Sissy and Fairy, ( two term I have heard from my Dad's times). I can under all of theses

Well said. You don't have to explain anything. I accept you just as you are.