I Am A Crossdresser And I Like Me

I am finding it very hard to figure out where I fit in the grand scheme of the gender spectrum. I would say that I more fluid and don't hide myself that much no matter how I am dressed and present myself. I have tried to join communities online and in my area but it seems i somehow always say the wrong thing about myself that seems to make these community members pull away from me. The closest thing I can relate with right now seems to be a crossdresser, but even those communities pull away when i don't want to talk about my underwear every time I meet them. I'm just at the point where I'm going to do my own thing and associate with none. I prefer to walk a fine line of chaos and unpredictability and that is where I am comfortable. I'm getting tired of apologizing and finding new ways to explain who I am. Perhaps they can open their eyes and see for themselves who I am.

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BizSuitStacy · M

This is something I've wrestled with myself. I identify as a crossdresser. But some days, it doesn't quite seem to fit. More than one friend has suggested they view me as a transsexual. I try not to over think it, but there is a ton of sexual psycho-babble out there to make your head spin.

I'm in a similar boat as to doing more and more of what I want, worrying less and less about what others may think.

Jessmari · 46-50

@BizSuitStacy Those who don't know or are ignorant of crossdressing often tend to look for labels that don't always fit. I try to give them a pass as best I can mostly because educating them only works if they genuinely care to learn.

BizSuitStacy · M

@Jessmari sadly, we tend to try to categorize people, including ourselves. We like it when things fit neatly into a box, but it marginalizes people...particularly those of us who don't fit completely into predefined social constructs.

A lot of people don't understand crossdressers. I get it. It's not like we come with a user manual. I always try to explain it to those who ask, but very few ever do.

Jessmari · 46-50

@BizSuitStacy I try not to play the sjw or wounded animal (even though it happens anyway) in this matter, but it absoluutely can be frustrating.