@SW-User
When I worked at that juvenile justice center I noticed the place was packed full of minors with serious, serious problems. I mean bad. One killed his parent and was on the local news, another was constantly running away, a girl kept trying suicide by cutting herself, and of course there were those who robbed using guns and knives. I asked about 8/10 parole officers why all these kids have such serious problems and keep acting out. Got a harsh answer from each of them straight - they all said it was because of the parents.
See they all said that the parents were usually young themselves, married not so much because of love for each other but more because they couldn't stand their abusive parents themselves. Therefore they themselves were not prepared to raise children, and abused their kids as they were abused themselves. This is at the core of the problem, the parents not having the skills necessary to properly give love, attention and care to their own kids. Parents never admit it. Every single one of the parole officers said the same thing. In my case, I can attest to that fact. Not everyone grows up in a proper environment and it takes decades, even a lifetime, to understand the causes yourself and have the 'where with all' to mature into a proper law abiding, civil, socially responsible adult yourself.
Life throws a lot of adversity at you, it's your responsibility to weather the storm yourself - no one else's. Hope this helps explain things.
