How difficult has it been for you to make and keep friendships as an adult?

My "friendships" have all been temporary, in that we hang out from time to time and get to know each other for a bit, and then quietly go our separate ways.

I haven't really tried. I met one guy a couple of years ago, we went out a few times but I figured out he was searching for a partner, not a friend. He already had his circle of friends. On the other hand, from his point of view it could have looked like I was searching for someone from the business to either get a foot in the door or professional advice. 🤷‍♀️

I don't know, relationships are complicated and I'm already a mess on my own. I think if I didn't isolate myself that much I might befriend someone but since I don't really have opportunities to be "stuck with someone" for long enough to get to know each other, there is a slim chance I will get new friends.

Even if I briefly met someone who seemed cool and I wanted to be friends with them, I didn't know how to go about it without being intrusive. I mean, you can't just approach a stranger and tell them "I want to be your friend". I've also had this weird paranoia for my entire life that if I show too much interest in someone they might assume I'm hitting on them. 🤦‍♀️😆 Honestly, I don't know how to get rid of it.

I've noticed that its a recent trend, people take forever to text back but its also ok to take your time to text back. I think culture is changing about this and going towards a less preasure attitude about intervals between texts, especially in younger people. the people I know who are below 35, especially the ones in their 20's , they take forever to text back, it seems to be a trend. I just adapt to the trend and I lower my expectations with those specific people. one of my best friends is a 23 year old lesbian and I have accepted that she is just like that, and when we see each other its awesome.

man i have lost many friends as a adult. Fact is as you get older, your patience runs very thin on the company you keep and cant tolerate as much bullshit. If i cant trust someone, they are out of my life now.
Most people i considered were friends were two faced backstabbing morons. The company i keep now is small but I trust everyone one of them and consider it real friendship.

Some people are just much better at ‘in person’ communication. Two of my closest friends are sooo horrid at texting. One sounds just like your friend, another is just always really short and sounds kinda cold. I’ve known them both a loooong time, so I know not to judge their terrible texting. Perhaps the acquaintance you’re speaking of is the same. I think you should go to the get togethers and see how things go in person. Or instead of asking how she is in text, just go straight to inviting her to go do something on a specific date and time.

Good luck!

I think im done with spending money behind friendships. Its taxing and they seem to leave anyway. Why do i even care?

No problem at all. We made friends when we moved to Texas 30 years ago, and we are still close friends.

My problem is i have too many friends and its hard to text back or remember to text them all back, so i take days and sometimes a week to respond sometimes

I'm not very good at making friends much less keeping them ...

I do try but it's not always reciprocated
If it's not reciprocated..I'm all peace out !

Time changes
Priorities change
And keeping in touch becomes more frequent than hanging out every now and then.

I'm really bad at making friends. I'm lucky to have the friends I do have.