How difficult has it been for you to make and keep friendships as an adult?

It is clear to me that I do not know how to do this.

I feel like people aren't good friends.

I've had an acquaintance since March. I've only hung out with her twice, ever.
She is terrible at texting back (which she did admit to first time we met), but if you want to make friends, you need to reply to them.

It will literally take her 2 weeks to reply to a message. She won't even respond to what I actually said, but more like a "hey how have you been?" Then when I respond how I've actually been, no message for another 2 weeks. But she's good at inviting me to her get togethers; which I've never gone to, because I don't know her well.

I feel maybe she's just looking for another body to be at her parties or something. Can't possibly be looking for a friend.

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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I haven't really tried. I met one guy a couple of years ago, we went out a few times but I figured out he was searching for a partner, not a friend. He already had his circle of friends. On the other hand, from his point of view it could have looked like I was searching for someone from the business to either get a foot in the door or professional advice. 🤷‍♀️

I don't know, relationships are complicated and I'm already a mess on my own. I think if I didn't isolate myself that much I might befriend someone but since I don't really have opportunities to be "stuck with someone" for long enough to get to know each other, there is a slim chance I will get new friends.

Even if I briefly met someone who seemed cool and I wanted to be friends with them, I didn't know how to go about it without being intrusive. I mean, you can't just approach a stranger and tell them "I want to be your friend". I've also had this weird paranoia for my entire life that if I show too much interest in someone they might assume I'm hitting on them. 🤦‍♀️😆 Honestly, I don't know how to get rid of it.