How difficult has it been for you to make and keep friendships as an adult?

It is clear to me that I do not know how to do this.

I feel like people aren't good friends.

I've had an acquaintance since March. I've only hung out with her twice, ever.
She is terrible at texting back (which she did admit to first time we met), but if you want to make friends, you need to reply to them.

It will literally take her 2 weeks to reply to a message. She won't even respond to what I actually said, but more like a "hey how have you been?" Then when I respond how I've actually been, no message for another 2 weeks. But she's good at inviting me to her get togethers; which I've never gone to, because I don't know her well.

I feel maybe she's just looking for another body to be at her parties or something. Can't possibly be looking for a friend.

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whisperingwillow · 36-40, F

Some people are just much better at ‘in person’ communication. Two of my closest friends are sooo horrid at texting. One sounds just like your friend, another is just always really short and sounds kinda cold. I’ve known them both a loooong time, so I know not to judge their terrible texting. Perhaps the acquaintance you’re speaking of is the same. I think you should go to the get togethers and see how things go in person. Or instead of asking how she is in text, just go straight to inviting her to go do something on a specific date and time.

Good luck!

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@whisperingwillow But they key word there was "my closest friends". You all already have an established relationship. To me, that is much more forgivable.
As I told her, I don't feel comfortable going to a get together at her house, when I've only ever met her twice. I don't know her. I honestly don't even remember much of what we talked about when we did first meet, it's been over 2 months at this point.