I am a divorced NCP of three kids. My ex gets a huge CS check each month of 3k.

I think forced child support is bs. whoever has the kids should support them. as it is bitchy women use their kids as tools against their father.. all the while keeping the kids away from said father while they talk hateful shit about them. it's a load of ****

not to say that all women are like that, but too many of them are.

I don't know what an NCP is. Your children are being brainwashed by their mother. She is obviously still angry and bitter and resentful of the divorce. And she will use this to manipulate your children. Consider this: you can now be free to live your life, see your children, be a father, and seek your own happiness. You can live as you please with no stress about living with her and all the problems. You can eventually, when you get over your present state of mind, find lovers and a partner long-term. I wish you to find a place of peace. Teach your children well. Do not speak ill of her in front of them. She should be mature enough to do this too. And move forward. I know my sister-in-law did this. Wasn't easy. But when their son was old enough, he figured out on his own what a schmuck his father was. You may even find they may turn against you. I had a dear friend on EP who experienced this as well as a friend in real life too. All their children returned to them in time. One cannot fool children forever. I wish you some peace.

I was lucky. My ex and I chose our CS which was $180 a month less than what child services wanted me to pay. But...I payed for 1/2 of everything and if my ex needed money and I had it I gave it to her.

Jeez....she's your child if you didn't separate what would you be doing??
You separated from your wife not your kids
Kids are expensive
And whatever your wife gets is 100% for the kids..

Wow. Your turn to get me new shoes?
I am always afraid to ask my father for such stuff. And now i paid my shoes from my pocket money.
My parents are divorced too.
My father pays for me. I hate to ask him for such stuff

I will soon be in your shoes.

It will be difficult but your financial obligation should be foremost. Just sayin

And women want to march on Washington saying they're oppressed...

Although actually your story is so dramatically it made me laugh hardly.

I've never got one single cent from my former "husband."

Before I left him he took with a fake signature all my savings from my bank account (20.000 $) and disappeared for a while.

When I educated my son completely alone the last 16 years we had to manage our life anyhow because despite my fulltime job there was never enough money - very often even not for food. You even don't want to know how many times in my life I went hungry to bed and still do.

But what actually should be still more missed than "Daddie's money" should be his love, his time, his presence.

Sadly my son has got never anything of those things as I also never got one of those things from my own father.

Well! How to handle it? It makes to distrust everybody.

You handled it right. I don't blame you.

dam that's harsh

That does seem unfair.

Just as an FYI to everyone that I didn't start this as an arguing of the unfairness of the situation. I was more curious or wanting validation on how others handle this type of issue.

Thank you for responding.

the only winner in marriage is the one who makes less money, im sorry but you sir have screwed yourself for life.