I am a divorced NCP of three kids. My ex gets a huge CS check each month of 3k.

I am a divorced NCP of three kids. I am only allowed by the court to see them every other weekend. My ex gets a huge CS check each month of 3k. Yet, my daughter each month says things like "Dad its your turn to get me new shoes." That always makes me so angry because she is getting so much money. Lately, I thought about it and said to her, "If I get you new shoes they are going to stay at my apartment for when you come to visit."

How do other NCP's handle this?

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PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M

I was lucky. My ex and I chose our CS which was $180 a month less than what child services wanted me to pay. But...I payed for 1/2 of everything and if my ex needed money and I had it I gave it to her.

Sunnykel76 · 46-50, F

Wish my ex was like that. He does nothing. I support them 100%

SW-User

@Sunnykel76: I'm sorry to hear that 🤗🤗🤗🤗

Sunnykel76 · 46-50, F

@MightyAphrodite: Ty :) I could make a stink about it but I figure if he doesn't want to support his kids...his loss. He will answer the tough questions someday.

PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M

Sorry Sunny...ppl ...whether guy or woman usually dont get it. It isnt about them...it is all about the kids! Personally I dont have any use for guys like your ex....I have no use for them.

SW-User

@Sunnykel76: he will....he has to live with himself
He will be old and lonely some day
And probably won't know his grandkids etc 🙁😒😒

PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M

Sunny...and kids remember...he will regret it!

ShadowSteel · M

@Sunnykel76: I don't see how thats possible. You don't have a choice if they are your kids either pay or go to jail. I am sure if you pressed the issue in court he would have a warrant. I think too often women underestimate their power in courts. Courts do not favor men they favor $$$ coming from a NCP to a CP. The fed reimburse the state $1 for every dollar that goes through the CS system.

ShadowSteel · M

@PTCdresser57: With the justice system its not about the kids. Its all about money. It has nothing to do with what is best for the kids EVER.

PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M

Exactly AmazingPoet...at one point child services pulled my ex and I into court wanting $95 a week. Judge talked to ex and I and said $75 a week until the ex got out of college then we could set it back to $50. Child services rep started to complain...judge told him to sit down..shut up and if he didnt he would be held in contempt. Judge told him never bring a case like ours to his court again

Sunnykel76 · 46-50, F

@PTCdresser57: thanks:)

Sunnykel76 · 46-50, F

@MightyAphrodite: this is true...his loss :)

PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M

Yvw Sunny anytime.☺