I am a divorced NCP of three kids. My ex gets a huge CS check each month of 3k.

I am a divorced NCP of three kids. I am only allowed by the court to see them every other weekend. My ex gets a huge CS check each month of 3k. Yet, my daughter each month says things like "Dad its your turn to get me new shoes." That always makes me so angry because she is getting so much money. Lately, I thought about it and said to her, "If I get you new shoes they are going to stay at my apartment for when you come to visit."

How do other NCP's handle this?

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LunarOrbit · 56-60, M

I will soon be in your shoes.

It will be difficult but your financial obligation should be foremost. Just sayin

ShadowSteel · M

Its a small prison sentence for choosing the wrong person. Major mistake. Women are much smarter at choosing who they are with. Do not date for looks, date for whatever is a contributing partner and isn't a parasite in your relationship. A good partner who will contribute and help your life. In the 50's stay at home mom was the norm, if you see that on match.com run as fast as you can away. Date for brains and contribution to your life.

ShadowSteel · M

Lunar one more thing: DivorceCare groups. Don't isolate. Its what I did wrong. We men tend to curl up where as women are smart and get emotional help and reach out. Reach Out. Go to church , volunteer, etc. It will help. Those are the mistakes I made so I am trying to share.

Its like a bandaid - it hurts like hell when it gets ripped off at first, but over time it will get easier and each day it will hurt less and less and the pain will shift to your ex.